Children Throwing Tantrums

[Amber_lv]

I have a 6 yr old who throws a fit when he is told no or when his baby brother plays with his toys i have tried everything to stop this behavior i have tried time out, threats, Stern talking, nice talking and even a swat on the butt and nothing seems to work on him. He is very smart and know how to manipulate already. What he does is he will start crying and screaming and it is so annoying like what a 2 yr old would do. I am on my last nerve with him does anyone have any suggestions?

[Kimberley]

I would completely ignore him. IMO, he's a little too old to throw tantrums. The last one my daughter threw was when she was 3. I ignored her completely and she finally gave up and hasn't had one since.

My son had one last year when he was four in Toys-R-Us. BUT, he was with the inlaws. My MIL held him till he calmed down. Sorry, but if I was there, he would have got a spanking.

I know...that's a controversial issue but I believe in it. It worked for me growing up and it's worked for my kids.

[Janet]

That very subject has been on Nanny 911 and SuperNanny quite often. They use the time-out and are very consisitant. Before they are allowed to get up they have to say why they were in time-out and apologize. When they tell why they are in time-out, it shows they know what they did. I only have my son so we didn't have those kinds of tantrums. Best of luck!!!

[Marilyn]

Maybe this is a boy thing. Neither of my daughters had tantrums. If they had, I would have spanked them and given them a time out.

Parenting is tough. There is no manual that tells us what to do, and each child is different.

Wish you success!!

[Mandy]

I have a boy, and he's never had a tantrum. I think it all depends on the child, i don't spank, never have, but i stick to my guns! No is No and Yes is Yes. He also never goes to he's dad for a "yes" after i gave him a "no".
We have been quite firm with him, and being an only child can be hard, because we see all he's mistakes, there's no one else he can blame lol

[Janet]

Our son is our only child also. I made a promise to God that if he gave us a child I would do the very best possible to raise him. And even though it hasn't all been perfect, who is, my husband and I have kept that promise. So many parents now days want to be friends with their kids and I've always said that we can be friends when he is an adult. Right now I have a job to do and it's too important a job to make mistakes.

[lisa]

my 6 year old throws tantrus too and i give her time outs. If she keeps it up then she cant go outside and that usually does it because she likes to go out and play with friends

[Janet]

They are showing this very topic on Dr. Phil this very moment. :)

[cindy0721]

my godson is the prime example in the trantrum throwing phase.... he's going to be 3 yrs in november but he is toooooooo spoiled... I can do anything about it because as my sister says. .its her kid.....

[Janet]

my godson is the prime example in the trantrum throwing phase.... he's going to be 3 yrs in november but he is toooooooo spoiled... I can do anything about it because as my sister says. .its her kid.....


The problem with that is, it may be her kid, but the rest of society has to put up with him. (relatives, daycare, shoppers in stores) There is no sense in letting a child run everything and get away with it. No one wants to be around that kind of child.

[Janet]

I have a 6 yr old who throws a fit when he is told no or when his baby brother plays with his toys i have tried everything to stop this behavior i have tried time out, threats, Stern talking, nice talking and even a swat on the butt and nothing seems to work on him. He is very smart and know how to manipulate already. What he does is he will start crying and screaming and it is so annoying like what a 2 yr old would do. I am on my last nerve with him does anyone have any suggestions?


Amber, how are things going with you in this department??? Have you tried anything new and are you being consistant? That's the key you know!! Just never give up...he won't get his way like that with others, so don't let him with you. I'm sure you'll be amazed if you follow some of the advice from Dr. Phil, Nanny 911..etc. It really is great advice. :thumbup:

[khardy57]

My oldest threw a couple of tantrums when he was two. I'm a firm believer in spanking. Not abusing, but a couple of swats on the butt to get their attention. Sometimes that's all it takes to make them realize their actions aren't acceptable.

For a six year old, I think spanking along with time alone in their room EVERY time they throw a fit would help.

Hope things get better with you.

[Janet]

I never agree to a time out in their room. Too many goodies in there. I always found a place like in the hall or in a corner of a room with no TV on.

[Elaine]

my 5 year old has been having his fits since he started kindergarten...crying and whinning when he doesnt get his own way...i turn the tv off and make him sit on the sofa for 15 minutes...its not working yet but i do it every time..hopeing he will get it..its very annoying. he gets happy good boy notes from school but now acts out at home.....i cant send him to his room either too many toys and stuff in there .

[Janet]

my 5 year old has been having his fits since he started kindergarten...crying and whinning when he doesnt get his own way...i turn the tv off and make him sit on the sofa for 15 minutes...its not working yet but i do it every time..hopeing he will get it..its very annoying. he gets happy good boy notes from school but now acts out at home.....i cant send him to his room either too many toys and stuff in there .


From what I hear...Just keep doing what you're doing and soon it will start to pay off. As with anything, we are busy and just don't have the patience sometimes, but I know it works!! if it's done every single time, they'll know what to expect. :)

[jck4b]

I've found that praising them when they do good does wonders. I really had to pay attention & look for opportunities to do this. For examlpe, if we went in the store & he was good usually no-one would say anything. But then I started telling him he was so patient when we waited in line or if he didn't ask for anything I would tell him it was so great of him that he didn't ask for anyhting while we were in there.If he played really well w/ no fight ing I would go into the room & tell him he played so well today getting along w/ his sister & sharing. The look on his face was priceless. I really have to keep my eyes open to find something to to praise about without going overboard.... I just remember growing up the only time we were spoken to was when we did somthing wrong. All I heard was : WHAT ARE YOU DOING!!, GET IN HERE!!, STOP THAT!!, WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU!!!etc. etc. ... All I'm saying is if we praise more, some of the negative behavior might ease up. Just a sugestion.

[Mandy]

I've found that praising them when they do good does wonders. I really had to pay attention & look for opportunities to do this. For examlpe, if we went in the store & he was good usually no-one would say anything. But then I started telling him he was so patient when we waited in line or if he didn't ask for anything I would tell him it was so great of him that he didn't ask for anyhting while we were in there.If he played really well w/ no fight ing I would go into the room & tell him he played so well today getting along w/ his sister & sharing. The look on his face was priceless. I really have to keep my eyes open to find something to to praise about without going overboard.... I just remember growing up the only time we were spoken to was when we did somthing wrong. All I heard was : WHAT ARE YOU DOING!!, GET IN HERE!!, STOP THAT!!, WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU!!!etc. etc. ... All I'm saying is if we praise more, some of the negative behavior might ease up. Just a sugestion.


Excellent post!!!! :thumbup:

It's very easy for us to see all the negative things our kids do, and we take the positive things for granted.
I can honestly say, my son has never thrown a tantrum. I'm NOT saying he's an angel, not by far! And i will NEVER say "my son would never do it" !!
I also grew up hearing daily "don't do this, don't do that, what's wrong with you, go to your room, clean up your mess, wait till Dad comes home, keep quiet" etc etc... all that, made me into a person that used to think, my opinion doesnt count, because i had to "keep quiet"