Did Your Christmas Suck???

[Janet]

Mine did! Of course, I've never had a good Christmas in my 53 years so I don't know why this one should've been any different. I don't want a pity party...or an " Aw Janet, I'm sorry you didn't have a good Christmas," I just need to vent and here seems as good a place as any.

My husband wrote out a list of things he'd like to get for Christmas...name of item, store and even the item number and price. The list had 7 items on it plus I bought him some surprises. As you can see from my list on the other thread...it wasn't quite the same for me. Not that I really wanted anything to begin with, but at least I put some thought into his gifts, plus got him what he wanted.

I got Ricky an IPod Touch, Garmin Nuvi780 GPS and some smaller items too. So what does hubby say as he's leaving for work this morning...that he is going to stop at Best Buy to look at GPS systems. He does this crap every year. I spend my Christmas money on him, Ricky, and Mom and a few others. He saves his back so what he doesn't get for Christmas, he goes and buys for himself.

Guess there was a reason that all day Christmas day I just kept telling myself I wanted a divorce. I wish I was brave enough to just leave. If I'm still here next year....I'll wrap dogshit in a box for him, because I refuse to spend another dime on the bastard.

I have always hated Christmas mostly because growing up, my Mom was always so mean, now it's the a$$hole husband. If it wasn't for Ricky, I wouldn't celebrate at all. If it wasn't for Ricky...I wouldn't be here at all.

[judy]

That does suck! Come live here. Just bring those puppies and Ricky!

[Janet]

Sounds like a plan to me...I even have a GPS now...LOL.

[DianaB]

Ok, now what am I suppose to say if I can't say that I'm sorry. That was pretty stinky of your husband and it would be the last year that I would give him gifts.

Gift giving from my husband was really lousy this year too. I guess that next year I'll just wrap up what I want and give it to him, after all that's what he did for me! You'd think that after 34 years of being married that he'd at least ask the girls to help him out!!!

[Janet]

I really don't think half the guys have a clue when it comes to gift giving. A weather station...don't think I'd want that any more than I wanted the wine.

I had discussed with him how I would like to go to the wine tasting, just to see if there was one I might like. I didn't want him to waste money on six bottles of the stuff. He took it all back this morning, but he'll do the same as he did last year when he took something back.....didn't get me anything else and didn't give me the money either. He did say he may be late because he might go to Best Buy and see what kind of GPS systems they had. He can be as late as he wants....I really don't care if he ever comes back.

Man, he makes me mad!!!

[Mandy]

Girls... men just do NOT have a clue... heres something to laugh about.

My husband bought me some really very nice spa products, with 2 bottles of the same perfume!! When i opened the second box, i looked at him and said....oh this is lovely, did you like this perfume so much you bought me two bottles? He looked at me and said... ohhh geeeezzz 'm sorry, i didnt realize, i bought the second bottle a few days later, but out of all, i liked this one the best, but i can go change it for you.

Well... i just smiled and thanked him, walked away and burst out laughing my butt off!!!!


I didnt get anything that was on my list (posted in the other thread) so i guess i'll go and get it myself LOL

[AngieDoogles]

Mandy, that is hilarious! I'm glad you got a good laugh out of it.

I'm lucky to have a hubby who is an AMAZING gift giver. He thinks of things that I haven't even thought of that I end up loving--like the heated blanket he got me this year. He knows how I get cold easily and that I love to snuggle up and get warm. It really was perfect! He also got me a book by one of my favorite authors and my favorite chocolates. And for the past two Christmases since my grandfather passed away, he's given me a really nice set of preserves. I've always loved different and unique flavors and my grandfather used to give me a set every Christmas. Brendon knows how much I miss him so that is definitely a really thoughtful and caring gift that always brings tears to my eyes.

And my birthday is in a few weeks, so I can't wait to see what he thinks up for that! :)

[Janet]

Mandy....I have one of those kind too....LOL. Sometimes it is so funny and other times I want to run him down!!!

[Marilyn]

Janet, I don't know what to say either since I can't say sorry. Just hope that you have a wonderful New Year!!!!

[Janet]

Not too worry, I always enjoy the time with my son. He makes everyday so special. I do try to concentrate on making his holiday a great one, so most of the time...most don't have any idea how miserable I was on the inside. I just don't want my son to have the same feelings for Christmas that I do. Isn't is strange how we carry so much from our childhood?

Life is still good...it is what you make it.

[toodles]

Oh Janet, I'm so sorry. I had a super miserable Christmas too :( everyone I am close to was out of town, including the guy I have started dating. It was supposed to be our first Christmas together, we had so much planned, and I had to stay here for work while he went on to Florida...his home town is Orlando. So he and my best friend went together and I had to stay behind. everyone, including both of my kids, was gone. I was completely alone for the first time in my life...and I just wanted to die. I think I cried more in the last week than I have in my whole life. I ended up running over something that punctured my gas tank on Christmas eve, so my car was broke down the whole weekend, bill collectors calling me non stop, and I missed a once a year chance to talk to my mother on the phone (LONG story). So I was miserable. Maybe we should make plans to start spending Christmas together so we can make sure we both have a good time :D

oh...and the day you do get the courage to tell your husband to STICK IT..please let me know! I finally did it and I can tell you that even tho my financial situation has TOTALLY SUCKED....it was the best move of my life and deep down, I have never been happier. It really was the right thing for me to do...and I think he feels the same way. I shouldn't encourage divorce, because I know that it should be the VERY last resort...but once you reach that point, you have to do what is best for YOU and your babies.....sounds like you are pretty much there from what I have read here in the past. I wish you the best hun!!!!! I'm here if you ever need to talk!

[Janet]

Mandee, I read your ordeal on YT and you poor thing!! My heart really goes out to you girl. You do know it's going to get better...right?

Sweetie I've been ready for years...just didn't want to start over at 53 and lose half of everything I've worked for. I just don't have the energy. I'm hoping once I get him moved into his own room, things might improve a bit. I just have to wait for the weather to warm up just a tad so the DSL cable guy can come move the cable from the computer room (where I'm moving hubby) to my room.

Aslo....glad you made it back here....now stay...okay???

[2tiredmom]

Janet, Sorry about your christmas. I knew you didn't like it.
Mine was ok.
Emily and her bunch gave me one of those new dust busting sweepers, socks and odds and ends.
Dustin gave me a DVD
Jennifer gave me Barn w/snowman pic.
Hubby gave me gloves, socks and pjs.
So i got everything that I asked for and more.
We got to watch grandson open gifts. He's really into trains now.
So it wasn't to bad.

[Janet]

That's great Linda...I'm glad you had a good Christmas. We really need to get together..it's been way to long.

[katcarasella]

Janet, my Xmas was bad too.....
Spent it alone with Maggie and Bailey.....my choice...:D
Family get together was on Friday, so got to see the grandkids open some gifts..
I'll share my Xmas gift with you GF...I got a case of Cambell's Chunky Chicken Noodle soup..:eek:

[Janet]

I love that stuff....so when will it be ready????

[Emmsmom]

((hugs))

[judy]

Hi to Mandee and Emmsmom!

Both exes were good in the gift department, especially ex2. He loved buying me presents, especially beautiful jewelry. He also got my taste better than I did! I still have some very lovely stuff; the rest I sold. It is now about 15 years since he and I went bankrupt, and my credit rating is excellent now!

Every silver lining has a cloud!

[Janet]

((hugs))

That looks so good!!! I love beer in a frosted mug!!!:D

[Janet]

Hi to Mandee and Emmsmom!

Both exes were good in the gift department, especially ex2. He loved buying me presents, especially beautiful jewelry. He also got my taste better than I did! I still have some very lovely stuff; the rest I sold. It is now about 15 years since he and I went bankrupt, and my credit rating is excellent now!

Every silver lining has a cloud!


LOLOL...maybe I'd get better gifts if I had an EX.....LOLOL ;)

[Shada]

You asked Janet.. so here goes.

Christmas Eve my sister called me around 5:30 to rudely ask me where I was, and why wasn't I over at her place yet, as she was having dinner at 6:00.
I was totally taken by surprise as this was the first I had heard of her dinner. Turns out she had decided that morning to make dinner, had her 12 year old grandson call my mom to tell her that she wanted mom amd I over for dinner at 6:00. Mom assumed they called me, she didn't want to go because of the way my sister has been treating her. So here I am, hadn't even showered yet, no presents wrapped, as I already had plans on going to moms Christmas day, so had plenty of time yet to wrap presents. I was just planning on spending a quiet evening home. I told her no way could I make it by 6:00, don't hold dinner for me, that I would be there asap. Quick shower and lousy wrapping and I was there by 7:00. Actually turned out to be a good evening. I had called mom after my sister called me, and she did go also. My sister, two of her kids, and 2 of her grandchildren were there, her drugged up boyfriend showed up later.
But all in all, had a good time.. another surprise there, as my sister and I have not been getting along well lately. But I love spending time with my great nephews. They are two bright lights in my life. Very close with them. 3 years and 12 years old. They are more like my grandchildren than nephews.

Then Christmas day, went to moms for dinner. Just me, mom, and my other sister.
Had steaks which I cooked.. but they turned out horrible!!

Oh well... rest of the dinner was good, and of course I enjoyed spending time with mom.

[Janet]

Sounds like you made the best of the situation Shada....that's really all one can do. I pretty much do the same.....no one knew I was hurt or disappointed...I wouldn't want to ruin a holiday for anyone else.

Glad you had a great time anyway...

[Gina]

Janet sweetie I am sorry to hear about your Christmas.. I did not receive a thing from my husband this year granted that his dad passed away a few days before. My husband is not one for going out and buying me presents he has given me beautiful jewerly in the past but I always tell him what to get me and pick it out.

Janet my marriage is not the greatest either, most of my friends are all divorced and miserable they cant find anyone decent out there so they stopped looking. Seems the grass is not always greener on the other side. To the ladies who have good marriages cherish it because there are so few.


Toodles I see you finally left your husband and you sound happy. I am glad for you and like Janet says stay awhile let us know whats going on in your life. Mandy I got a kick out of your husband that is to cute....

[Janet]

Gina....all I can say is "I love ya girlfriend."

[gja1000]

I have been there and done that! I was in a horrible marriage 30 years ago. Thankfully, I got out of it. I was a nurse, with my master's and I could support my daughter and I fine. I was NOT looking for another man when I found my current husband, but thank God I found him. He is my soulmate and I am so lucky! Yes, I do cherish him and our marriage!

BUT, if/when something happens to him (and most of you know he is in very very bad health) - I will NEVER get married again. It's not that I don't like being married, I love it - but if I lose him, I just want to be alone, I don't want to be this close to anyone, ever again. I guess it's kinda like - he's one in a million, and I would only compare others to him - wouldn't be fair!

Now, about his gift buying. I'm not real "into" gifts. I would like our trips to be our gifts to each other. But he has other ideas. He loves to buy me gifts and he racks his brain for the perfect gift - sometimes he gets it right, sometimes not. But he tries and that's what counts!