Exactly Janc! My idea of parenting has always been that I will know that I've done ok by them when they're happy to go out the door and build their own lives without needing to lean on me. Maybe that's what bugged me... they didn't seem too eager or happy to take that step. I wanted them to bounce out eagerly... not have to be nudged. LOL

My younger daughter was the lazy one. She hated high school and after graduation (barely) didn't like either of her jobs sooo she went in the Army . I couldn't believe she lasted through boot camp. Getting her up in the mornings was a REAL chore. 9 years later (she was out for 2 years- had 2 babies a year apart and a divorce) she's still in the Army and taking flying lessons. She wants to fly helicopters in Iraq! She's been there twice. The older one was climbing out of windows when she was 14, a dropout at 15 or 16 (the school asked her to leave) and has been with her significant other since she was 17. She has 2 kids who she makes tow the line (she's like a drill sergeant) and she's been in college for almost a year! That is a miracle! She wants to be in charge of a Dr. office. She has epilepsy that's been under control for 6 years. She's 35 almost 36. The middle child, my boy, was valedictorian in high school and never got in trouble. He's married and has 1 kid. Life can sure throw some surprises.

I'm glad you're feeling a little better Marilyn. I know it has to be tough. We know they NEED to be out on their own, but when we've had them for so long it's hard to let them leave. I know just when my son is away at a friends house for the weekend or at camp..I get so lonely. But...I also enjoy that time alone so much. Kind of a catch 22.