Remember Lyndsey-when God closes a door he opens up a window.

I've said it before but you ladies have been so great to me. I know I need to learn to love myself again. I used to be the girl who didn't need a man in my life for anything! Then I got one and started to lose myself. I was part of his group so I didn't branch out on my own. All of a sudden it was over and there was nobody. I need to build myself up again before I try to rely on others to make me feel good. I put faith and trust in a girl I hardly knew and it feels like I just got dumped all over again.

I definitely understand what you mean. I lost myself with my ex as well. It became "US & THE KIDS" instead of "me". So when he cheated on me & we split up I was lost. I started hanging out with old freimds & a really fun guy (someone I knew I wouldn't fall for) I taught myself how to have fun again. How to be me. I hope you find that again too very soon hon. :justahug:

She definitely doesn't sound like a good girl to be around, so your decision to distance yourself from her is a good one.

Give it time, it's gonna hurt for a little while, but something good will come when you least expect it!!

I got so upset last night I decided to first block, and then delete my ex from my msn contact list. This seems so high school! But mine is on all day, and since we broke up his is on all day and his name is always changed to what he's doing. I just decided, I DON'T CARE WHAT HE'S DOING, and I don't need that constant reminder that his life is going on without me. It's easier to think he just doesn't exist anymore.
I think I've decided to stay civil with the girl. I'm not going to go out with her and her friends anymore. I will still go for rides with her on our bikes because we're both learners and it's nice to have someone to learn with.

That's not high school, or at least I hope not because that's exactly what I would do. It's painful now, so to have the constant reminder hurts, especially if it seems like what's happened doesn't bother him. So removing him from your contact list isn't a bad decision at all.

I completely agree. I blocked my ex when we split up just because I didn't want to see his name.

I agree. I'd probably do the same thing. You don't need the extra pain Lindsey.

I feel better today. I didn't think about him as much. I talked to his friend today (we e-mail each other all day at work... I met him the same time I met Ryden) and he talked about Ryden a little... asked if I knew about their big party last week and why I didn't show up. I said I wasn't invited and I had other plans anyway. I don't want them to think it bothers me, because Ryden will find out. As far as any of them know, I cried over him for one day, and then I was over it! I still like those guys, and I still like hanging out with them. It's less weird for them I think if they don't know anything has changed with me, and I'm still the same girl they've always known. I don't want them to think I'm so upset over one stupid guy. Besides, why am I upset over one stupid guy?

Very good :thumbup: . You are getting there girl. One day at a time. :D

I agree! Way to go Lindsey!!!

Ahhhhh there ya go!!! GOOD for you girl :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:

Well, I think he found out that I deleted him on msn, so instead of making all his plans clear there, he posted on the sportbike forum that we're both part of about 5 times today about what his plans are for parties and that people should join him for a good time and stuff. And to bring this post back around again, I went for coffee with the girl tonight. She basically told me I'm way too cute for him anyway and really, who needs a guy? I got my learners license today for my bike, and she is taking me out tomorrow afer work. I came up with my new motto tonight... "Replacin' boys with toys!" :D

:sidesplit: THat is great! I love it! :thumbup:

ROFLMAO - replacin boys with toys :bravo: :yelrotflmao: :yelrotflmao: :sidesplit: