So sad you have to deal with this. Our society has gotten so bad!!

My thought was....could you trade roommates? She likes yours and hers might be a quieter kind of guy who wants to rest and study like you do.

Just a thought....

We couldn't trade roommates, because then their little secret would be out. Plus she lives in a house with 3 other people and pays wayyyy less rent than I do. And her house is pretty much known as the party house. I ended up taking enough tylenol last night to knock me out so I got three hours of sleep.

I think it's already starting to get the better of me :( I've never shook so bad as I did last night, and my heart was pounding so hard I thought it would burst out of my chest. To begin with, I'm not healthy, and they both know that. I need sleep. I constantly have low blood sugar and low blood pressure, and one damaged kidney. When I don't get sleep I actually feel ill all day. Sometimes everything will drop at once and I just pass out, it's been happening since I was 6.
I think today I'm going to tell them if they want to do it here, do it and be quiet by the time I go to sleep. When they're coming home from the bar like last night and they'll be doing it tonight too, go to her house, or sleep in the car or something!

Sweetie I know exactly how you feel. I wish I had great advise for you, but I don't. I went through a very similar thing my junior year of college. I moved in will a girl I thought was a friend of mine. We got along great & had a lot of fun. However soon after we started living together her boyfriend moved in. I would get charged for the food he ate, I never came out of my room because he was always there watching t.v. I couldn't use the internet to do my homework because they were constantly on. She stole my cloths. It was a hard situation & I started having panic attacks. I'm not good at standing up for myself & I just let things go. I hardly slept & my only saving grace was that I went to my boyfriends place every weekend. My good friends had a house in town & once I told them what was going on they let me crash there as often as I wanted & I could come in & do homework or watch t.v. anytime I wanted even if they weren't home.

You have to take care of yourself, it sounds like you are having panic attacks & with you preexisting health problems this can be very bad. You are having panic attacks because you feel trapped like there is nothing you can do to control or stop the situation. This person is not your friend, she has no respect for you or herself. When they begin to make noise I would bang on the door until they answer & then inform them that they need to keep it down. This has also gone on long enough I would inform her roommates of what's going on & then come back & tell them that they can go over there now because her roommates know what's up. Please take some kind of action, this is affecting your health.

You must put an end to this before you wind up in the hospital. I think you have been too nice so far. Sit both of their behinds down and tell them you cannot take this anymore. Tell them it has gone on far too long, your health is deteriorating and your education is being affected as well. If they can't respect your wishes, threaten to expose them to everyone. I think it is ridiculous that two grown a$$ people are hiding around like two high school kids. And this so called friend of yours has no respect or affection for you if she continues to act this way even after you have expressed your feelings to her. I would start looking for a new roommate and give that jerk and his floozy two weeks to get out of my house. Enough is enough!!:mad:

I thought it was finally getting better, but obviously it's not!! Girl, it sounds like you have a roommate and friend (if that's what you want to call her) from HELL. I know how important girlfriends are, but at this point I would tell that girl that she is NOT allowed in your house. You should not have to resort to medication because of inconsiderate jerks that you are living with. Your 'real' roommate is being a huge jerk, and not respecting you in the least. You both pay to live there and you BOTH make the rules. If he can't adhere to the biggest roommate rule of all (RESPECT) then it's time you tell him where to put it. I know yelling isn't going to fix anything and that's not what I'm suggesting. Maybe you should tell him and the girl that you don't want her over there anymore. Or make a rule that no one is allow over after 12am. It's a shame that neither of them are willing to compromise with you, and it's even more of a shame that this girl just keeps lying to you to keep you quiet. Why would she keep saying sorry, and then repeat her actions over and over again? I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. It's not fair on you at all. Even if you lose this girl as a friend, it sounds like your health is much more worth HER friendship. Good luck.

I went to school this morning fully ready to explain my situation, that even when they fall asleep i'm so stressed out I'm up all night. I started out by asking the girl if she would mind if they slept at her house tonight and she BURST OUT LAUGHING! She said yeah, but just the fact that she laughed at me made me so mad I just quit talking to her. The other girl in my class, who is now like the only real friend I have here, was so sympathetic when she saw me this morning. She said "oh you look so tired!" and I told her I slept 3 hours last night. The first girl was like "'I'm sorry! I really am!"with a huge smile on her face.
She wants everyone to know so badly. If I threaten to tell, she'd definitely come over more. My roommate is the only one who really really doesn't want it to get out, and I'm not near comfortable enough to discuss anything with him. Her and I having a fight right now would make for a very awkward three months when we have to sit together every day, all day. She's also good friends with my boyfriend. She grew up with his roommate and their whole group of friends, so if something happened I would feel excluded from the group.
I really don't know what else I can do but suck it up for 3 more months.

Okay! I think I have gotten through. I'm talking to her on MSN right now. She asked if it was them or my dog that kept me up last night, and I said both for the start, then it was quiet but I get so stressed out I can't sleep for the rest of the night. I apologized for sounding bitchy, but I told her if she wants to come over and hang out with him and whatever, if they're quiet by midnight it's fine with me. Her exact words were: "No that is ok, I want to you tell me if we are disturbing you, i really don't mean to" and then "no seriously lindsey you are my best girlfriend here and the last thing i want to do is piss you off" She's at home right now but my roommate is out with some friends. She told me "at least you'll get a good sleep tonight" and I said it depends on how late my roommate gets back, and she was like "No, I think he's coming over here when he's done."
I'm praying that this will go on for more than one day!

Girl, you've got to make a change for your health. Careful with the Tylenol. It's safe in proper doses, easy on the stomach, but is actually a very dangerous drug and can be very toxic if you take too much. It can cause liver damage and there is no antidote for an overdose.

GOOD!!! I hope so girl. Get that sleep tonight!!