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2tiredmom 09-20-2006 01:32 PM

How long did you date B4 you married him?
 
Ok Girls here's a good one if i do say so myself. How long did you date before you married your spouse?
I was married before. I divorced in April of 89 and started dating the love of my life on June 30th of 89. July 18 of 89, he proposed. I said yes. We got married on Sept. 9, 89. Don't get me wrong we have had our ups and downs. But you have to give and take. I didn't marry his family I married him. It's a good thing too just ask Janet. lol. we have been together for 17 years and right now it seems to be the best of those years so far. I have been truly blessed.

2tiredmom:) :) :) :)

rivermom 09-20-2006 01:34 PM

Let's see. We met in November I believe and we were married the next September. (we both had to finalize our divorces first or it would have been sooner)

Both my hubby and I are on our 3rd marriages. ( I know ladies, don't freak) We just knew it was right, we were meant for each other. Besides, 3rd times a charm!

RLC12345678 09-20-2006 01:49 PM

My hubby and I met in the fall of 2002, we had a class together in college. We had our first date on Dec. 3, 2002, he proposed on February 4th, 2005, and we got married August 6, 2005. We would have gotten married sooner, but I wanted to finish college first (hubby is 2 years old so he had already finished). I got married 3 days after my last day of college! :p :p :p

Mandy78 09-20-2006 01:51 PM

I met my hubby when I was 22, and I knew he was the one. But I felt like I was too young to get married. He was 30 when we met. So an 8 year age difference. So we dated for 4 years before we got married. But we moved in together after 2 years!!!!! So now we are going on 7 years of being together and going on 2 years of marriage! YAY!!!!!!!! And this is both of our 1st marriage!!!!! And I still like him...LOL!!!!!!! So I truly do hope we last forever!!!! I can't imagine not being with him!!!!

Janet 09-20-2006 01:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 2tiredmom
Ok Girls here's a good one if i do say so myself. How long did you date before you married your spouse?
I was married before. I divorced in April of 89 and started dating the love of my life on June 30th of 89. July 18 of 89, he proposed. I said yes. We got married on Sept. 9, 89. Don't get me wrong we have had our ups and downs. But you have to give and take. I didn't marry his family I married him. It's a good thing too just ask Janet. lol. we have been together for 17 years and right now it seems to be the best of those years so far. I have been truly blessed.

2tiredmom:) :) :) :)


In ONE sentence....her in-laws SUCK big time!!!

Janet 09-20-2006 01:58 PM

Okay, let's see if the ole memory is working today: :rolleyes:

Met him January 15, 1970
Engaged in January 1974
Married September 28, 1974

Married 32 years this month.


WHO'D A THOUGHT??????

Cribal 09-20-2006 02:07 PM

We were friends for a year... about 2 months into the friendship he started living with me

We dated for 7 months and then he asked me to marry him on christmas and we got married that Sept.

We've been together 1 year Sept. 10th.

Cribal 09-20-2006 02:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Janet
Okay, let's see if the ole memory is working today: :rolleyes:

Met him January 15, 1970
Engaged in January 1974
Married September 28, 1974

Married 32 years this month.


WHO'D A THOUGHT??????

How did you remember when you met him? You must have a great memory capacity or there must be a good memory about the day you met. (if it's the second one then, do tell !!!) < i'm nosy>

Janet 09-20-2006 02:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Cribal
How did you remember when you met him? You must have a great memory capacity or there must be a good memory about the day you met. (if it's the second one then, do tell !!!) < i'm nosy>


No not really, this is gonna kill ya I just know it!!!

We were fixed up by my friends gay husband. They had a big street light in front of their house and underneath the streetlight was this old, beat up, each panel a different color '55 Chevy. I didn't go at the specified time (I was just about to turn 16) and I wasn't going to go out with some weirdo that drove a car like that. So after a while my friend called and asked where I was and I told her "aint no way I'm going out with this guy". She finally talked me into it and when I went over there he was...in clothes that didn't match and he had on corduroy pants with the threads so thick he looked like a bear from the waist down. We didn't go anywhere just sat and talked, (I would have been embarassed to death for my other friends to see me with the half bear guy). After a while I said I didn't feel well and went home. He called the next day and asked me out, but I told him I didn't know. Well he talked me into it once I asked him to just wear jeans. OH MY GOD this goofball arrives wearing a nice blue shirt and a pair of jeans with peace signs all over them. I THOUGHT I WAS GONNA DIE!!!!!!!!!! He was so nice though and even though we DID NOT get out of the car.... we had a nice talk and I casually told him he dressed like a freak. From then on he dressed much better and as time went on most of his presents from me were clothes. HAHAHA So here we are today ...just as happy as two matched people could be.

He's not so bad and going down memory lane reminded me of that.....thanks gals.:D

Shannon 09-20-2006 02:55 PM

We met July 4, 2003.
We dated long distance.
We moved in together on March 15, 2005.
We got engaged July 4, 2006.
We are getting married April 14, 2007.

Taurus Babe 09-20-2006 03:43 PM

We met May 19th 2006...He hasn't asked YET!;) But I'll give it a year!:p

Shannon 09-20-2006 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Taurus Babe
We met May 19th 2006...He hasn't asked YET!;) But I'll give it a year!:p

Give it more than that. You are still young.:)

rivermom 09-20-2006 04:18 PM

You all are so great at remembering dates. All I know is I've been married 8 years. I can't remember yesterday let alone the year. LOL :o

Shannon 09-20-2006 04:23 PM

I only remember mine because it was a holiday. When we met, I was three sheets to the wind and I can't remember what we talked about. I do remember making out with him later that night. I was thinking man, I am seeing fireworks. I was so drunk that I forgot it was Independence Day!

Tink 09-20-2006 06:47 PM

I met Greg through mutual friends when I was visiting them with a different boyfriend in Oct of 1981. He told them when we left that "That's the woman I want. I'm going to marry her." They about laughed him out of the place, saying that I would NEVER give up the guy I was with for anyone. (We had been childhood sweethearts and rediscovered each other after my divorce.)

Greg was NOT a womanizer... had really only had ONE girlfriend before me and was 34 years old! So it was a shock to our friends and ME when I moved in with him 5 months later! We lived together until Aug of 1985 when we married. He proposed 3 times before I finally caved in. I was extremely gunshy after my 1st marriage and really wasn't eager to repeat that.

Marilyn 09-20-2006 07:07 PM

Okay, Y'all, top this......

Met June 1973, I was dating his best friend (not going steady)
Started dating July 1973
Engaged August 14, 1973
Married December 22, 1973

Married 32 years.

He was from Baltimore, MD, had been in Texas about 2 years, and was a democrat, agnostic, pro-choice. I was a South Texas farm girl, republican, very conservative Christian, pro-life. We met during summer term at college, and I loved his accent. Opposites do attract.

By the way, he's a Christian, now, and we are both independents, we agree on most other issues also, with time and experience, you learn there are shades of gray. Oh, and he's been here so long now, he has a Texas accent. :p

Marilyn 09-20-2006 07:10 PM

By the way, Janet, this comment is for you. My guy is color blind, so you should have seen some of his color combinations when he picked me up for dates at the dorm. He had no idea his pants were lime green. He thought they were brown. Hey it was the early '70's the colors were outrageous anyway. :cool:

Luv2Teach 09-20-2006 07:30 PM

My bf and I met early August 2000. We started dating a couple weeks later. Six years later, we are still together, living together, but he hasn't proposed yet. Maybe this year. :)

Mandy 09-20-2006 11:50 PM

Met my husband in 1984, i think it was ...
Married in 2004 :D

I saw too many friends get divorced and seperated, so i decided i was not going down that road!
People kept telling me, men change after they married, well in that case there was no way i was gonna say yes! He proposed several times, each time i explained why i wasnt into marriage.

September 2003 he proposed again out of the blue, it was so sweet, and i was shocked LOL
Well, then i thought after almost 20 years, if you don't know the guy by now, you never will... so we got married in may 2004. We had a beautiful wedding, it was so much fun, friends and family are still talking about it, and no he has not changed LOL

He's a good guy and i count my Blessings!

Carolyn 09-21-2006 05:12 AM

We got engaged 4 years after we starting going out. We're together for 16 years total!

Ponyup 09-21-2006 05:32 AM

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Met mid October 2000
Officially became a couple Nov. 11th 2000
Engaged shortly before Christmas 2001
Married August 24th 2002

We were long distance up until the day we got married & moved in together. We only saw each other on the weekends. Needless to say there was an adjustment period when we first moved in together.

ice queen 09-21-2006 09:44 AM

:D I met my hubby in March of 1998- my ex-boyfriend brought him over to my apt. we went on a date two days later. The next day he moved in with me a week later he asked me to marry him. We got married in August of '98 and have been together ever since.:D :D :D :D :D

magnolia 09-21-2006 10:08 AM

Met my hubby through mutual friends in August of '84 and we were just friends. Our first "date" was on January 11, 1985 but it was more just our first time out without being around a group of our friends! We officially became a couple in March of '85, engaged in July '85, and married on January 11, 1986 - we will celebrate 21 years of marriage next year.

Tiger Lily 09-21-2006 10:38 AM

Met 9/8/01 - (we were both very drunk & he asked for my number without writing it down. I was shocked that he remembered it & called)
First Date 9/13/01 (two days after 9/11, so I'll never forget)
Proposed Aug 04 - (said no)
Engaged 3/3/05.......
No date set for wedding yet


I've never been married, whereas he was married for just over a year a loooong time ago (he's older). We both owned our own houses when we met & almost instantly stayed every night together, alternating between his house & mine. Eventually, it was only his. Our relationship was great, just a few little things & one big thing.....Lack of Committment!! I had had enough & put my house on the market w/out telling him the 'why' which he later discovered that I was planning on 'moving on'. He dropped many a tear & then a knee & proposed. I said no, because it was not meant as an altimatum(sp?) & didn't want a proposal like that. But I wasn't moving out of state until my house sold. He was a changed man. He proposed again in March & I said yes. Since then, we have built a new home together & the focus has been off of a wedding. It's still important to me, but somehow I've become content with things the way they are. He's a great guy & treats me wonderfully.

Gina 09-21-2006 04:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Marilyn
By the way, Janet, this comment is for you. My guy is color blind, so you should have seen some of his color combinations when he picked me up for dates at the dorm. He had no idea his pants were lime green. He thought they were brown. Hey it was the early '70's the colors were outrageous anyway. :cool:


Met my husband through a mutual friend in June of 78
Engaged April 80
Married in May of 82

We both had to finish college and find jobs..lol
Next May we celebrate our 25th.. OY!! lol

Janet and Marilyn speaking of color when I met my hubby he was wearing .. you ready for this a checker green jacket <uggggggg> and polyster no less lol God love the 70's lol Today I dress him by buying all his clothes.

Marilyn 09-21-2006 07:48 PM

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Originally Posted by ice queen
:D I met my hubby in March of 1998- my ex-boyfriend brought him over to my apt. we went on a date two days later. The next day he moved in with me a week later he asked me to marry him. We got married in August of '98 and have been together ever since.:D :D :D :D :D

Wow, you beat me on time from meeting him to marrying him. See if you can make it 32 years, okay???? Really hope that you do. It gets better with age, definitely!!

Marilyn 09-21-2006 07:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Gina
Met my husband through a mutual friend in June of 78
Engaged April 80
Married in May of 82

We both had to finish college and find jobs..lol
Next May we celebrate our 25th.. OY!! lol

Janet and Marilyn speaking of color when I met my hubby he was wearing .. you ready for this a checker green jacket <uggggggg> and polyster no less lol God love the 70's lol Today I dress him by buying all his clothes.

My hubby's green pants were polyester, too. He also had some navy and white hounds tooth corderoy cuffed pants. They were awesome!!!! Or at least he looked awesome in them. They fit just right, and he had a nice butt!! Still does, just a bit bigger. ;) He still dresses himself, but does check with me on color from time to time. I keep him from embarassing himself. :D

Emmsmom 09-26-2006 09:31 AM

we started dating July of of 93. We m oved in together that December. We got married the following July 29,1994. We have been married ever since. Of course we have had our ups and downs like everyone but you have to work through them. We have been married for 12 years. Most of our family never thought we would ever make it.

ginab 09-26-2006 11:40 AM

STILL dating, will be 10 months

Kimberley 09-26-2006 12:03 PM

hmmm...dusting off cobwebs here...

Met August 1998
Engaged December 1999
Married March 2000

Lissa 11-30-2006 05:42 PM

old thread but I couldn't resist :D

Quote:

Originally Posted by Marilyn
My hubby's green pants were polyester, too. He also had some navy and white hounds tooth corderoy cuffed pants. They were awesome!!!! Or at least he looked awesome in them. They fit just right, and he had a nice butt!! Still does, just a bit bigger. ;) He still dresses himself, but does check with me on color from time to time. I keep him from embarassing himself. :D

Thus is why posting on the same forum as your mother can be interesting. ;)

Met: August 21, 2006
Started dating: August 27, 2006
Not engaged but the guy's got promise :)

Brooke 12-01-2006 09:41 PM

I met Mike at our church youth group... all the girls liked him, after all he was new blood!!!!

He was the first real boyfriend i had ever had and I was his first girlfriend. He was my first FRENCH KISS, and my first and only anything else...I was his first everything too!!!

We were 17 a nd dated for 3 years before we got married.

We are married 25 years!

Marilyn 12-02-2006 05:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lissa
old thread but I couldn't resist :D



Thus is why posting on the same forum as your mother can be interesting. ;)

Met: August 21, 2006
Started dating: August 27, 2006
Not engaged but the guy's got promise :)

Hey, Melissa, you know I was attracted to your dad, or you wouldn't be here, and I was your age when I met him. So perhaps you can relate to meeting the love of your life at college?? We may have more in common than genes.

Kristy 12-07-2006 08:52 AM

Met June 25, 2006
Dating since then.


He's got promise, too ;)

Lissa 12-07-2006 05:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Marilyn
Hey, Melissa, you know I was attracted to your dad, or you wouldn't be here, and I was your age when I met him. So perhaps you can relate to meeting the love of your life at college?? We may have more in common than genes.


Wow, so you approve? :D And you were so worried when I told you I'd met someone so soon!! (For whoever doesn't know, I met him 4 days after I moved away to college, and was dating him a week later)

RLC12345678 12-07-2006 06:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lissa
Wow, so you approve? :D And you were so worried when I told you I'd met someone so soon!! (For whoever doesn't know, I met him 4 days after I moved away to college, and was dating him a week later)


Oh don't worry......I met the man who is now my husband the first day of my first semester of college. We had class together and assigned seats next to each other. Even before we started dating, I knew that he was "the one." :D

highlans 12-08-2006 01:20 AM

We met in May74 and married in May76 would have been sooner for me as I knew straight away he was the one but did not know he was married for 6months, so by the time his divorce came through we had been together nearly 2years. Have been happily married now 30years:D

MarisaK 12-08-2006 08:14 PM

My husband and I dated a year before getting married.

We met on july 91 and he proposed that same month before I when back to college. We are still together, of course we have our good and bad days.

DianaB 12-09-2006 09:38 AM

My husband and I were high school sweethearts. We dated for about 2 years and have been married for 32 years!! I knew that he was the love of my life soon after I started dating him.

Passionfruition 04-05-2007 07:40 PM

We met in June of 2002.
We started dating in August of 2002.
We got engaged February 28th of 2003 (after dating 6 months!)

We married on February 28th of 2004.

We have now been married 3 years, 1 month, and a few days!


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