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Old 10-26-2006, 01:34 PM   #11
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Originally Posted by RLC12345678
I don't think you're too young to get married. I was 21 when I got married, which was over a year ago. I know people thought that I was too young to get married, but I think it is more of a maturity factor than an age factor. I am a lot more mature than almost all of my friends and it was the right time for me to get married. That does not mean that all 21 year olds are ready for marriage. Everyone is different.

Have you ever read the book or heard of the book He's Just Not That Into You which is written by one of the male writers for the show Sex In The City?? It is very enlightening! I own it and have read it cover to cover many many times. If you want to read it but don't want to go out and buy it, let me know and I'll mail you my copy. I think this book will really help you build the confidence to just straight up ask your bf if he is into you enough to get married or not. I know you are scared. But wouldn't you rather know NOW if he doesn't want to marry you so you can get on with your life than wait until you are even more invested in this relationship to find out?? If he doesn't want to put in the kind of commitment that you are willing to, you don't need to waste your time on him. I know that is hard to accept and he may not even be this way at all, but that is something that you DEFINATELY need to find out before you take your feelings and your emotions any further.

Seriously, if you want to read this book, let me know and I'll send it to you. It is SO good. It is short and to the point. You could read it in a couple of hours. It is one of Oprah's all-time favorite books. I think EVERY girl, woman, preteen, teen should read it.

that is so sweet of you! i would love to read it! i would hate for you to spend the money to mail it to me though so ill just make myself go out and buy it someone remind me please (im reallly forgetful)... but i totally agree with everything you said. i think that the reason its eating me up inside is b.c i dont know.. and im not into wasting my time or life waiting on someone to get with the program. this is also the first relationship that ive been in that im not the dominant one. usually i make all the decisions and choices and the guy just says ok hunny... but in this one.. i cant do anything about it.... and i dont really want to .. i just want him to say either i want to marry you or i dont. i hope ive come to the realization that i can handle it if he doesnt. im usually such and independant person and for some reason i feel like a rejection from him would just floor me. someone give me some "balls " so i can just blurt it out!
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