My husband is on 20MG of Lexapro. He has been on Paxil before and some other ones too but they just didn't help with his anxiety/depression. Lexapro is the only thing that has helped him so far and he has been on it for probably going on about 3 years, maybe more who knows. He doesn't have any problem what so ever with his uhhh manhood staying up lmao however he just totally has no sex drive what so ever. Like I said in the last post I made, he will get
interested about once every 3 months. Which is pretty pathetic considering that we are still young. It pisses me off though because we can only have sex when
he wants to, how come it can never be when
I want it? And when he wants sex,
he wants sex, and he expects it right then and there. Total opposite for me though. I don't get it at all when I want it, it's only on
his time. I know that his
no sex drive is something that he can't help, it's the medication thats doing it. But I have tried to talk to him about going to the doctor and getting something to help him overcome this problem and he refuses to go so what can I do
I guess he is just embarrassed. It's embarrassing for
me though, because everyone I know ask us when we are going to have a baby because they know I want one. Well I have just been telling them,
I don't know- I just haven't been able to get pregnant yet- don't really know whats wrong. Well then they all tell me that I should go to the doctor and get checked out to see whats going on with me, when in all actuality I know
exactly whats wrong. Ya can't get pregnant if ya don't have sex!
I just don't want to go around telling everyone,
oh yeah I'm not pregnant because my husband and I never have sex, ya know? There was a point where my husband and I had talked and decided that we really did want to try to start having a baby, because for a while he said that he was just too scared and wasn't ready to become a father. Well after we had that discussion and decided that we were going to start trying- and this was over a year ago- I started keeping up with everything as far as my most fertile days go. Well I would let him know when we needed to
try and the first couple times it was fine, and then he started acting like it was such a chore to him. OMG I cannot even tell you how humiliating that was for me. I felt like I was being like guy and begging
him to have sex. I would cry and cry for hours. Sometimes I would feel hurt and other times I would just be so damn mad about the whole thing. It's like he promised me that we would start trying, and then he acted like I was just bothering him and I was just
in his way so to speak. When I would cry he would comfort me, ask me whats wrong and all that, and when I would tell him he would say
I told you we are going to start trying and I told you that we will have a baby. Well answer me this- how in the hell am I ever going to get pregnant if we don't have sex! I would just get so frustrated. It was just think he was saying one thing to get me to calm down and completely doing another. Finally I just gave up. I feel as though we are
never going to have children. That's honestly what I believe and it makes me sick. He
knew when we first started dating that having kids was very important to me and that it was the one thing I wanted most out of life. I made that very clear to him from the get go. I wouldn't have married someone who did not want kids. I don't want to have my first child when I'm over 30. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but my parents had kids really late in life and I just prefer to have them earlier in life. Especially my first. I don't know, just talking about all this makes me sick. And it makes me even more angry at him for not wanting to do something about it. I just wanna tell him how stupid he sounds when he goes around telling everyone that we are going to have kids because in the back of my mind I'm thinking-
no we're not. It isn't possible with hardly any sex life at all. I don't know I am at a complete loss. I don't know what to do anymore. I guess I just have to suck it up and deal with it and realize that I will probably never because a mother like I had always dreamed of. And I'm sorry but it's his fault for taking that dream away from me. I'm just so angry..
Omg I just realized how long that was- sorry
I just had to vent..