As usual, I'm a little confused
Is the person your oldest son with now Ryan's mother?
You know Paula, there is not a thing in the world that we can do about our "grown" kids decisions! We can only love them and pray for them and hope everything turns out for the best. Congrats on your new granddaughter! What is her name? I know it must be awkward for you, especially since your younger son has a girlfriend she really likes. I hope they can work through it all.
I'm sorry you are so stressed. It seems like when it rains, it pours! We are here for you!