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Gina, both Katie and Robert have said if there wasn't such a huge age difference, things might be different between them, but they agree it's not appropriate considering he could easily be her father agewise.
He does have daughters aged 3 and 7 who Katie really enjoys, so she spends time with them and him. He moved here to be near his kids when his ex moved here. He's from Tennesee and was living in California during his marriage and is fighting for full custody of the kids. He knew no one here except his ex and kids, so it was a move for the kids for sure. He says his ex used to be a very nice woman, but she got involved in drugs and changed dramatically. She refused to give up the drugs, so they divorced. I've seen the kids just sob when he has to take them back to her. They definitely prefer to stay with their daddy. ;( It is heartbreaking to watch. You can just see the pain on his face.

My husband is a semi driver, so won't be home ahead of time to talk with his brother. Honestly, they barely talk anyway. We live less than 10 miles apart and they see each other once a year at this gathering. Even then they rarely talk to each other. They are 15 years apart in age and are totally different people. Hubby is not close at all with his family, and quite seriously only really enjoys visiting with his oldest sister. She is more down to earth than the rest, like he is.

I'm sure once his Mother dies he won't bother to even do this once a year visit. He goes now simply because he feels obligated and gets to see his one sister. It's a complicated sad bunch. If he can be convinced to call anyone, it might be his sister or Mother... but I have my doubts about even that.