[Lindsey]

Sandy, I have to agree with Gayle on all points!

My great-aunt fosters children. Some of these kids are in such horrible condition when they come to her. One was born to a heroin-addicted mother, and the baby was addicted itself, and my aunt had to give the baby morphine and wean her off it. She gave the baby a chance at a better life, because she would not be alive otherwise. One of her fosters, nicknamed "Lucky" was born with heart problems and had to have open heart surgery within days of being born. He survived. My aunt fostered him for 3 years, and then his mother came back and wanted to take him. I think she was able to do that if he wasn't adopted by some point. So, my aunt adopted him. She couldn't stand to see him go back to a mother who could not care for him.

Her husband passed away and like you, she didn't want to date again. She had her own little foster family, and grown children and grandchildren as well. She spent a lot of time in Mexico with her sister. Then, she met a man down there and a couple of years later, they were married! He lives up here now and they're a happy family together.

I think you just need to follow your heart and happiness will find you eventually!