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Old 01-06-2007, 02:27 AM   #5
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Originally Posted by Kimberley
Sorry that I haven't been around in a while...but I've had a lot of things going on. I'm here to vent so I hope that you guys don't mind.

I am so sick and tired of my in-laws. They are the ones that moved us down here. I thought it was a good idea...stupid me! We lived with my in-laws for a couple of months before we could find a place that was affordable to rent.

I should have known I was in trouble right off of the bat. FIL, hubby and I were in the living room. FIL and I were watching the news and hubby was reading the paper. FIL doesn't even look at me but says..."Why don't you get off of your fat ass and go mow the grass?" I look at my husband and he doesn't even put down his paper.

FIL has ALWAYS been one to speak his mind...especially when he's had too much to drink. I'm making bottles one night in the kitchen. I had my back turned to him..."Why don't you shake 'em a little harder!"

Then, a couple of weeks ago (after my recent surgery), we're at their house and I'm at the stove (we went for supper), he comes in from outside and felt up my butt.

He's a S.O.B. I have a daughter from my first marriage. They loved my daughter...until I had their grandson. My FIL has lied about my daughter...said she said things she never said. When I asked him to produce a witness...he can't. Our summer vacation was ruined last year (yes, we went with them) because he lied about my daughter.

The day after Christmas, we went to their house to do Christmas with my husband's cousins. We're out in the shop drinking and having a good time...FIL starts in on me..."You care more about your damn dogs than you do your family!" WHAAAAT? Where did that come from? "If you cared so much about your son, why doesn't he know how to ride a bike!" Once again, hubby doesn't say a word so I tell my FIL..."Why are you asking me? Why don't you ask your son...your grandson's father?" The fight escalated from there. Basically, he blames me for everything that has gone wrong and everything that continues to go wrong. I swear, he blames me for Hurricane Katrina and global warming, too!

I hate living so close to my in-laws. I absolute hate having a husband that doesn't stick up for me and tell his father to shove it where the sun doesn't shine. It causes a strain on our marriage and I resent my husband for not having a pair to save his life.

We went to counseling last year...that helped for all of about a month. I find myself wanting an excuse...wanting out. I know that isn't fair to him or our kids because we do love each other. I just want to scream...but what good would that do?

Sorry to be in such a bummer mood. I just needed a place to talk.

I'm not sure what to advise here. It seems from your post there is too much drinking going on in the first place. Why would anyone be out in a shop drinking the day after Christmas for one thing. Also sounds like your husband needs to stand up for his family. If I were you...I'd get back into counceling and when you get things straight...move. For most people living that close to in-laws, whether it be your family or his...is not a good thing. Also, be sure none of this stuff takes place in front of the children...

I'm sorry I can't help more. I stay away more from my family. They are just too toxic and get me upset everytime I'm around them. I don't subject myself or my son to any of it. I want him to know how REAL families act. You'll have to do what you think is best...with or without hubby.
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