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Janet, the church generally says that homosexuality is only a sin if it's acted upon. So the expectation is that a homosexual is to never have sex in order to be considered to be living a Christian life. They can't help who/what they are, but they are to deny that part of themselves.

It was in trying to be "normal" that my friends partner ended up in a marriage and fathering 3 children. He was one of the lucky ones in that his ex wife and kids found it possible to accept and continue to include him in their lives even after he "came out". He ended up divorced, and loved his kids, who he did end up raising, yet his trying to deny his sexual orientation caused a lot of grief and pain for them all.

How that can be better in the eyes of God is beyond me.