[Janet]

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

I agree that your son should talk to him. I had a similar situation going on with my dad. My dad had a massive heart attack in 2004 and almost didn't make it. The doctors told him he needed to start eating right and exercising. Well, he didn't obey the doctor's orders. My sisters and I would always tell my mom how concerned we were about it. Well, one day we convinced my mom to say something to him about it and my dad got REALLY REALLY mad at my mom. He said that he was a grown man and could do what he wanted and my mom didn't need to be telling him what to do, ect. and he didn't talk to her for like 3 days. Well, after some time passed, my sisters and I were still concerned but my mom siad she would never again say anything to him about it bc he just gets pissed and defensive. So, my sisters and I decided to say something to him. Well, my dad listened to us. I mean, how can he get pissed at his daughters for being concerned? He can't! And you know what, he has started eating right and exercising. We told him that we wanted him to be around to play with his grandchildren, and he listened. He would not listen to my mom, but he listened to us.

If your hubby is already hiding things from you (i.e. the game), then if you talk to him he may think you are just trying to "control" him or boss him around or whatnot, like he feels you might be doing now since he is hiding things from you. But I honestly think if your son approached him, he would listen to him and really take what he was saying to heart, just like my dad did.

You don't think he's too young at 16 to have this talk with his dad? I have always practiced not involving him in adult situations, but I guess he is getting to be more of an adult. I'll see if he would be comfortable doing so and go from there.