i have a grand-d that is 8yrs old and is old enough to know better but she is so mean and disrespectful that it's almost unbearable to be around her. even to try and talk on the phone with my daughter is hard because all you hear in the back ground is her 2 girls yelling , it's gotten to the point that i rarely call her anymore and there was a time we would talk several times a day. it seems the older her girls get the worse the behavoir is getting. i raised my girls to respect there elders, they never raised a hand or their voice to their grandparents or any adult, they were raised that if they misbehaved in a store or anyother place they would be spanked, well my sil was not raised that way dont think he was ever spanked and he has a very loud voice just in a speaking manner and even louder if he is yelling at the girls which is his way of correcting the girls. my daughter and sil have had a hard time coming to an arrgement on how to correct the girls but i am afraid my daughter has given up, they are haveing problems with their marriage as well and the girls know way more then they should about that. i love my grand -d's but it's almost unbearable to be around them. i'm not so sure if this has anything to do with the way i raised my girls because my oldest daughter has 2 older boys , the oldest is ADHD (13 yrs old) and my daughter has had to be very stern with him but in the long run it has really paid off she gets compliments on how well he is doing in school and how respectful he is of others. dont get me wrong boys will be boys but my grand-d can run circles around any boy. i have tried to talk to my daughter about this but our relationship has been very strained over the last couple of years due to the sil so i try not to say too much anymore. i just never dreamed she would end up this way .
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