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My Moms best friend is my best friends mother. Following me so far? LOL
So anyway, these women are like family to us, and seriously have been with us well over 50 yrs.

My Moms friends hubby had a stroke 30+ yrs ago that landed him in a nursing home unable to do much for himself. His mind is unpredictable, he's unable to walk, and often doesn't make much sense. She has stuck by him this full time in spite of the fact that they really have no marriage or partnership anymore because of his condition. She's been faithful to him and ended up raising their 5 kids on her own while he sat in a nursing home, unable to help.

Recently, she met a man (in church of all places) who she's become friends with, and is very attracted to. He is a widower, so is just as lonely as she is. She has come to care for him enough that what she's been lacking in her marriage all this time is really depressing her. She is now considering divorcing her husband so that she can have a life again. She's 72 years old, and is in very good shape, but realizes she doesn't have forever and has been alone yet committed almost half that time.

She's asking her kids and friends if they would think poorly of her for filing for divorce so that she might still have some chance of a more normal life. What would you say to her?