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Originally Posted by Janet
I wish I would have talked with my mother before we got married. She was not asked for permission. Dad was already gone by then. I remember about 20 years ago, Mom told me that when hubby and I were dating, they hoped I didn't marry him. I had no idea! My Mom loves him to pieces now, but I wonder if I had known that, if I would have married so young (19 years old). I tell everyone that asks, to wait as long as possible. Too much growing up yet to do, at least for me, anyway.
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Janet, my hubby and I were married when I was 18 and he was 20. I'm now 21 and he's 23 and we LOVE being married. I wouldn't change it for all the money in the world. (He asked my mom permission, too, which I thought was SO sweet!)
My mom loved him, but obviously didn't want us to get married at such a young age. She told us her opinion but gave us her blessing...and even paid for the wedding! I think now she realizes that even though 18 and 20 is too young for most people, we haven't had any more problems than people who marry later. I would even go as far to say that we have less issues than the average married couple (though there is no way to be completely sure of this).
I think it's important if you marry young to REALLY discuss your future in great detail. We knew we would have to make it through college while being married, that we were going to wait a LONG time to have children so that we would be as ready as possible, and that it would be tough financially for several years. We were okay with that.
For us, marrying young worked out wonderfully. However, seeing most of our married friends' relationships (the ones who married young), I wouldn't suggest it to most people. Many of them have VERY tough issues to deal with and are either going through divorce or on the verge of divorce. They didn't know what to expect or their partner turned out to be different than the "perfect" person they had imagined. It is heartbreaking to witness...
