[Marilyn]

Trying to tread softly here....if he's your bf and not your hubby, perhaps she is not comfortable with your relationship. She wants to make sure he gets what he wants since your relationship may not be permanent. Just thinking out loud, but that could be her reasoning. Now why your bf is not telling her that his is bringing you along is something you may want to ask him. If he is thinking of a long term future with you, it seems he would be excited to include you.