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Originally Posted by Chandra Amaya
I agree you did the right thing. I know its hard & you feel for her but she has to learn what is appropriate from somewhere. If everyone just allows her to get away with things because of the horrible situation she is in, then she will grow up to believe what she does is acceptable & eventually use her homelife as an excuse instead of a reason to strive for something better. As she gets older & starts to understand "how society works" a little better, just continue to let her know you are there if she needs someone. Maybe if she starts talking social services will remove her from the home or at least she will open up to people who can lead her in the right direction.
It is wonderful to know that some bus drivers/ School officials/ ect still do care. My 8 yr old son & 11 yr old daughter (both very small for their ages) ride with high school students. I can't drive them because my oldest son has to be picked up & dropped off as they get out & it is too far away to do both. These high school students harass & beat on the elementary students & despite my attempts to try to talk with the school about solutions, no one seems to care. I have suggested having elementary on separate buses, an extra school official on the bus to keep order while the driver drives. None of this happens. My son has come home bleeding from just to the side of his eye, holding his stomach, with gum stuck in his hair, has cans & bottles throw at him (which for one should not be allowed on the bus & for 2 that's how his eye got busted...by a GLASS bottle), & with many cuts & bruises. My daughter finally got fed up with being hurt & started fighting back. Mysteriously, the driver saw her hit back & she was suspended from the bus for 3 days. The excuse is always "they didn't see the person" who hit my kids & can't just take other students on the bus' word for what happened. I wish I had some way to get them there without the bus. I wonder daily which one will be hurt & how badly.
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Chandra,
After teaching for 20 something years I have learned that parents who absolutely will not accept anything but what their children need are taken seriously.
Way too often, if they sense that you are willing to wait for them to do something about a bad situation, they'll just leave you hanging. The parents who are totally assertive and want what they want, with no exceptions, are those that get it. The squeaky wheel gets the grease - especially in the school system.
What's happening to your kids is totally unacceptable. How they fix it is their problem. They may need to be told that you are going to sue them or get the news involved. They won't like you for it, but your kids won't come home battered.
My daughter's elementary school principal knew how I liked my coffee because I went right into his office whenever something I didn't like came up. Her middle school had to change the math curriculum because of me. (It was a terrible curriculum, most of the kids were failing and they lied about it. I demanded to see all of their grades and called them on it. It was revised the next day).
Advice from an assertive Mom,