[Marilyn]

Oh, Lynne, many hugs to you!! I've been in a place very similiar to where you are now. Both my parents are gone, but I was my mother's only child, and had to take her to the doctor and try to get my full time job done as well a be a wife and mother. Mother was 39 when I was born, and I was 31 when my oldest was born, so when mother was in her 80's and suffering from dimentia, my father had already passed away, and I had two young daughters & a husband to care for. Doctors who treat the elderly make their patients wait so long in the waiting rooms, we would sit there for 2 hours before seeing the doctor, like we had nothing else to do. I cried lots of times out of frustration. Like you, I loved my mother dearly and missed her when she was gone, but it was very difficult. When she entered the nursing home, there was still lots that I had to do to make sure she was cared for properly.

Take care of yourself, too & do try to get some help. You can't take care of her if you get sick yourself. (((((((Lynne)))))) Hope things get better for you!!!