There's nothing more I can add to what has already been written. As stated, she is YOUR daughter and YOU make the decisions you feel are in the best interest of her and yourself. I guess I was kinda lucky with my mom - she was the only girl with 3 older brothers so, despite the era she grew up in (late 40's early 50's), she is laid back - and she was a preacher's wife!!! (my dad passed away almost 22 years ago). And with me and my sisters being PK's (preacher's kids), we were not raised in an extremely strict house. Oh, we knew the rules and obeyed them - most of the time
- but we were good kids. My mom was the one to suggest to me and my younger sister on getting our ears pierced! I was 11 and my younger sister was 9 and her mom paid for it (was our christmas present from her)!!! I shaved my legs at age 11 or 12, can't remember exactly but know it was around that time. Back then, there were no special kits or razors so I experienced MANY cuts and nicks. Oh, and my mom bought my first make-up when I was 13 and I hadn't even asked for any - it was just powder and blush but I felt so proud
By doing what you did for your daughter in letting her start shaving, you've shown her you understand HER feelings at this point in her life - you've not "forbidden" anything and in my opinion, you're keeping those lines of communication open between the two of you which is missing with a lot of kids today. Keep your head held high - as long as you feel you did the right thing, then you did!!