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Janet, you're not a downer. You're a sweet loving lady who's going through some tough stuff and should be able to lean on her friends and have a place to vent as needed.

I kinda know how you feel 'cause I try not to post a lot of negative stuff, but that's my own hang-up... not a result of anything anyone here has said or done. I think we're both lucky to have such good friends here that we CAN vent when/if we need to. So vent away... it's a whole lot healthier than holding it in till we blow up! LOL