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Scoob, I lost a 10 yr old nephew who I was very close to, and an 18 yr old who was like a son to me. The nephew has been gone 17 years and I still shed a few tears now and then but I don't think of him every day anymore like I used to. The 18 yr old has been gone 2 years. I still break down when I hear certain songs that he loved or were played at his funeral. I still feel a void but again, it's less intense and less frequent than it used to be. I don't love them any less, but I have had to go on.

I think it's always harder when it's young people... we just can't justify in our minds why they would go before us. We figure we should have been able to protect them and prevent it from having happened... but we're not God and when God says it's time for them to go we are totally powerless to stop it. What we can do is to be glad for the time we had them, the love they shared with us, and hope that we learn from their loss to fully appreciate the other loved ones we still have. We owe them that much.

Life can change or end in a heartbeat. We truly need to make the most of every second we have.