[DianaB]

You DO have some tremendous decisions to make. How far is New Paltz from your daughter? I gather that you would probably be closer than you are now. You're going to have to tread lightly, like you've already mentioned.

I know that for myself, I prefer to just have my own family for Christmas morning and while we open gifts, after that I don't care who comes over, the more the merrier! Just give them this little time with their family and then you can show up like "Santa Grandma" all laden down with your own presents for the kids!! Also, get them some games that you can play with them throughout the day. You're going to have a great Christmas, Judy!!!