Haley you have been given good advice from the ladies as usual. I will put in my two cents and talk to you as if I were talking to my own daughter.
Marriage is a hard job especially when you are first married and children come into play. Every stage of marriage has its ups and downs. Trust me there is no perfect marriage out there. Like Diana said you cannot fight over your MIL and other family members they should be left out of the equation. He loves his mother and he loves you. He did married you but sometimes men cannot tell their moms to stay out of their marital life. I have a son and a daughter, I see and you will see what a mothers love is. From the day your son is born he is everything to you. Some day yes he will married and I promise myself as long as his wife treats my son wonderful I will not interfere. I do hope that she will love and respect me for if not it will be her lost for I know I would treat her well. Sometimes MIL have this stigma placed on them from the start in which is not fair. DIL have a tendency to stay close to their family and shut out the in laws which is not right either. I feel communication is always best for all.
He brought you flowers he is telling you in his own way that he loves you, you have a baby to raise. Yes if he has other issues, drinking, gambling, womanizing then by all means leave. If it is just his family thats breaking you up , Don't let this happen. One day talk to each other and express how you feel, maybe he is realizing that he is losing you and wants to make it work. I to almost left my husband a few years ago, and my children were very upset. I just couldnt do this to them, I know people say you can't live your lives by your children. But you know what if I left I know my kids would have not succeeded in their education.We did go together for counciling and he is trying. We will be together 26 yrs. Haley heed want Diana has said don't have them babysit, hire someone to do it. On weekends every so often get a babysitter and go out on a date. Don't be quick to leave, give it time and see what happens.
Sometimes marriages that have problems become stronger because of it. But it takes time.
PS I had my FIL who was a pain in the neck, I learned to yes him to death and always did want I wanted it kept the peace.
Last edited by Gina; 03-27-2008 at 12:41 PM.
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