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Originally Posted by jck4b
My God Janet I thought for a minute you were talking about my sister! She's also been a screw up her whole life, starting from an early age & she's now in her 40's also. All she has to do is bring on the tears or throw a tantrum or the one that is sure to work is the "poor me I'm a victim & everyone is out to get me!" routine. It works everytime on my mother. My mother's purse has been open all her life. She was in jail for a couple of years recently & my mother paid for the laywer, fines & money for her too call & reverse the charges. Her phone bill was a easy $300 a month from those calls.They took her daughter in for those two years, paid her storage fees on her furniture & bought her a car when she got out. All the while my mother complains non-stop about how she can't take it much more but it still goes on today. Just in the last 2 1/2 yrs. the have given her $30,000 & that was their retirement money. I used to feel sorry for my mother but after years & years of listening to this & advising her to stop giving her things because she''ll never do it on her own, I've finally decided to save my own sanity. I have removed myself from the situation. I have'nt seen or heard from my sister in over two years. She is now living back w/ my parents again so I have not been there in over a year. It may not be the best solution but it certainly brought me some peace of mind. Since I have no control over the situation I needed to remove myself. All I can say is don't let her get away w/ anything that you can control. Call the police if she takes the car.Good luck.
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Oh WOW, sounds very similiar. We couldn't afford to help her if we wanted to which we don't. I know it's not completely her fault being the way she is, it's her parents fault. BUT she is 41 years old now and needs to learn to handle things herself. It's always the same victim or poor me story here too. She can be very intelligent when it comes to manipulating, hiding from bill collectors and she is an excellent liar. She'll have to make it on her own, because all of the family has cut her off financially. She is their sister and they do love her although, she's making that a little tough too.