OK... I ended up waiting till she got off the bus and then talked to her. She even brought Emmie's sweater to school. So she knew she shouldn't have taken it. I called her over to the car I said... " Honey, I don't mind you borrowing clothes but you need to ask first. So Emmie is going to come get the other 2 shirts later." She said ok and then they asked if Emmie could come over so that they could do homework. Geez.. I was worried that they wouldn't be speaking and all hell would have broke loose. I am glad that went over well. She doesn't have the best homelife and I was very reluctant to let my daughter go over there. They live across the street and I told Emmie that if her OLDER brother started arguing and fighting with her mom then she was to come home. This turned out better than I had expected.
I let her know that it was not ok and I guess by letting Emmie go over there it let her know that everything was ok. If that makes any sense. LOL