Been there! It was me that wanted to divorce though. It did not involve another man...After 19 yrs and 2 beautiful daughters later I decided to end the marriage. I actually was divorced from the heart for about 10 yrs and stayed because of my girls. Even though this was something I had to do, it was the worst thing I had gone through in my life.. (X is an abusive alcoholic). Because nobody saw the way I was treated (not saying entire marriage was bad) I was blamed for everything, my family would not talk to me...I felt very alone. I exercised ALOT, lost 67 lbs, actually obsessed with it to the point where I became bolemic (sp?) It took me quite a while to get over the fact that I was single again. I HATED dating again...very scary...I started dating about 6 months after the seperation. Met someone and now have been married for 7 yrs (in Nov). My new husband is 5 yrs younger than me, never been married, only child and never had children. We have had some difficult days because of this but, manage to get through. I hope all goes well for your daughter and her children. It's not easy but, with the support and love from her family and friends, she will get through it.
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