[DianaB]

I agree that you need to let your family know how you want your funeral planned out. My father-in-law had always told my husband and I how he wanted to be buried but he never told the rest of the family and so he didn't get what he wanted. But aside from not being thrown in a hole and covered up, I thought that the family did a pretty good job and the funeral was a real tribute to him.

When my Dad died I had his girlfriend, ex-girlfriend, his brother, my brother and sister-in-law, neices, step-grandchildren, and a woman that I wasn't sure how she was connected to my Dad, trying to help make decisions or let me know what I'd done wrong. I just tried to do my best. I know that my Dad probably wanted different songs than what I'd done but he didn't leave me any ideas of what he wanted.

My Dad ended up with a hot wheels car and a love letter (from the strange woman) that didn't make a bit of sense in the casket with him, along with some other stuff! I was so glad when that day was over!!!