[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Tink

I worked for 7 years on a Parenting site and one of our biggest controversies was always Attachment parenting. ( along with circumcision and spanking)

Co-sleeping is one of the aspects of attachment parenting. I think there are as many different ways to parent as there are people doing it. As long as the children are healthy, happy and well adjusted, how they get that way is of little concern.

Since this thread started out on sexless marriages, according to studies I've seen I think it's a lot more common than many realize. There are so many aspects to marriage, and sex might be one of the ones we hear the most about, but in the grand scheme of things, it's certainly not a guaranteed part. Many things can happen that end a sex life. Drinking, drugs, depression, illness, emotional turmoil, lack of emotional intimacy and others can and do put up roadblocks. It seems that often it's just a side affect of other issues.

When we have kids it's harder to focus on the marriage, but more important than ever to do so. Yes we love our kids for life, but in time they do grow up and leave us and we're left with this man we married and had better have a strong connection with him or it's going to be a LONG lonely life. Leaving them is going to hurt the children... no 2 ways about it, whether the kids are 2 or 22. So if you truly love your kids, you need to make time for and nurture your marriage or you're destroying the most valuable thing in their life, which is a loving home with both parents in it. The best gift we can give them is the example of good solid respectful relationship between their parents.

Wonderful post Tink. I agree with every word. I really appreciate you sharing your wisdom with us!