[Janet]

We know our advice may not be what you want to hear...it's that way with me too. I usually know the right thing to do, but actually doing it can be a real struggle with the heart.

I think I was the one who brought up the 'child' thing in the first place. My advice was not to start a family or have a baby with this man before you get everything straightened out. That was all.

I do wish you the best in whatever you decide to do. We're here if you need us and please don't shy away from asking for more advice. There will be a lot of different opinions and you just need to take a little from all that will work for you.