Janet,
You really do need to sleep in separate rooms, and yes, I can understand why he might see it as rejection. But that is just him being a "man" LOL! For some reason, men just don't get it. Hmmmm.... that didn't come out right. LOL! But you know what I mean!
I have friends who got married a few years ago, third marriage for her, second for him. They slept together one week - and then moved into separate rooms. They said in order to live together, then needed to sleep separately. It just makes sense.
My hubby has various health problems including very severe restless leg syndrome. Sometimes he has to sleep with the head of the bed elevated a lot, in order to breathe. We spent several thousands of dollars on a tempurpedic bed with split twin king mattresses with adjustable bed frames that work separately. Thus, he can raise up the head of his bed, and I can lie flat. Also, with the tempurpedic mattress and the split mattresses, I cannot feel his restless legs (he takes meds which greatly help, but do not completely stop it). Anyway, it's more difficult for me to snuggle up to him or visa versa (with all his health problems, snuggling is the max
) - so sometimes he pouts, but he and I both know that we both sleep better. WE LOVE OUR BED.
Unfortunately, your hubby won't perceive the separate rooms as HIM sleeping better, but if he can just get past the rejection nonsense, it will be so much better for you.