[Janet]

We had a discussion last night. I told him I hope he didn't think I was going to be hard on him, but there were some things he needed to know. One was that this one job may not have been in God's plan. There will be something, but he can't sit and look at jobs on the computer. He needs to get out there and show people that he is a go-getter and wants a job. I also told him he can no longer mope (sp) around the house. That if he feels he needs to have a pity party for himself to do it elsewhere. Not that we don't want to support him, but that he was not setting a good example for Ricky....that when things get bad....you whine and feel sorry for yourself. That is not what I want Ricky to learn. I told Rick that I want Ricky to learn that you pick yourself up....put a smile on your face...even if for a little while and go do what needs to be done. A person has to make things happen...it just doesn't always fall in your lap.

I also told him that even though I'm ready for him to have a job.....I'm also feeling stressed because there are so many things (and I showed him a list I had written down) that need done and I'm afraid that he won't have time before he starts working again.

I suggested instead of sitting at the computer every morning...all morning....that he limit himself to an hour or maybe two, to check computer listings, but then he either needed to get busy on the list or get out and job hunt in person. No more of this sitting around thinking of how bad he wants a job....to get out and make it happen.

I hope I wasn't too hard....but he was bringing Ricky and I both down and we just can't have a household of depressed people with no hope. I won't let that happen.