[Marilyn]

You've received some good advice here. Take it slow and try not to burn any bridges. She may not have realized that she was excluding some of the people she did. Also, have you checked to see if the people were invited. They may have been and not been able to attend.

When our daughter Melissa was married, we learned that one branch of the family that was a total no-show, thought that they weren't really invited because their invitations did not include response cards. None of the invitations included response cards because we were not serving food other than cake and punch at the reception. They felt we were snubbing them & we sincerely were not.

Sometimes there are unintensional oversights or misunderstandings.