I have a 16 year old sister and she ALWAYS calls me crying over this type of drama. I always tell her that all her friends are immature and that Haley just needs to kill everyone with kindness. I tell her that even though these girls may "seem" like they are her best friends, when she grows up, she will probably never talk to them again. I am not friends with anyone I went to high school with anymore. I tell her that even though it is hard, kill everyone with kindness. Brush it off. Try not to take anything anyone says too seriously. THey obviously have personal issues they need to take care of. Tell your daughter these things and tell her that these girls DO NOT MATTER. She needs to know that her FAMILY are the ones that will always be there for her...not these girls...so try not to take them too seriously. Be kind. If she is kind, it will be VERY VERY hard for other people to be mean to her. Tell her not to stoop to their level of he said/she said. Tell her to be the bigger person. That is what I've always told me sister and it seems to really help. She really doesn't care anymore about what people say. In a few years, she won't ever talk to them again anyway.
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Rebecca
"To whom much is given, much is expected." ~Luke 12:48
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