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01-17-2009, 11:37 PM

Thank you!!

So the week is over. Hehe...

It went so fast. I just finished up the prep course. My BF parents left this morning.

It was a bit weird because we have been dating for 2 years now, and all his step mom thinks about is getting married. Geesh... the first time I met her she asked if we were thinking about marriage and this is when I only knew him for a few months. So of course that was her favorite topic this year.

I just told her we have a lot of things that we need to accomplish in our lives before we can think of that. Then since that was the topic of the week my boyfriend asked me what I would say if he asked me in a few months. I told him do you want the sugar coated or the truth. Of course everyone wants the truth but can they handle the truth.

So I told him, I would say no. I really don't know where our relationship is right niow but I know it is not going down that road. He is the sweetest guy but is okay with being okay. We never fight, we have little disagrements here and there but that doesn't last long. (Neither of us likes the fighting relationships as we had to deal with that as kids and now we discuss and come to an agreement.

) Anyway i just feel like being okay is not an option. My dad has always told us you always have to have a goal in life, even if it is small. So every time I reach my goal I am looking on. God put us here to enjoy life and that is what I plan to do. I just feel like he lacks the drive, and only has goals to make me happy. I do everything in my life because I want to, and it is almost like going out with myself!! It is nice for people to make you happy but they also have to have some personal goals.
Also at times it almost feels like he wants to date someone that has him wrapped around their little finger and I don't want a guy like that. A few months back a person he worked with (a friend) got mad because he told them he had to ask me if he could do something and that I said no. I had no clue what his friend was talking about. I asked him and he said he said that to get out of something. That makes me look like I am overbearing. I talked to my sisters and I talked to my dad, and they told me I already know the answer to the questions I ask. So I guess I already know what to do. What do you think?

01-17-2009, 11:37 PM	#7
KimberlysRN Guest Posts: n/a	Thank you!! So the week is over. Hehe... It went so fast. I just finished up the prep course. My BF parents left this morning. It was a bit weird because we have been dating for 2 years now, and all his step mom thinks about is getting married. Geesh... the first time I met her she asked if we were thinking about marriage and this is when I only knew him for a few months. So of course that was her favorite topic this year. I just told her we have a lot of things that we need to accomplish in our lives before we can think of that. Then since that was the topic of the week my boyfriend asked me what I would say if he asked me in a few months. I told him do you want the sugar coated or the truth. Of course everyone wants the truth but can they handle the truth. So I told him, I would say no. I really don't know where our relationship is right niow but I know it is not going down that road. He is the sweetest guy but is okay with being okay. We never fight, we have little disagrements here and there but that doesn't last long. (Neither of us likes the fighting relationships as we had to deal with that as kids and now we discuss and come to an agreement.) Anyway i just feel like being okay is not an option. My dad has always told us you always have to have a goal in life, even if it is small. So every time I reach my goal I am looking on. God put us here to enjoy life and that is what I plan to do. I just feel like he lacks the drive, and only has goals to make me happy. I do everything in my life because I want to, and it is almost like going out with myself!! It is nice for people to make you happy but they also have to have some personal goals. Also at times it almost feels like he wants to date someone that has him wrapped around their little finger and I don't want a guy like that. A few months back a person he worked with (a friend) got mad because he told them he had to ask me if he could do something and that I said no. I had no clue what his friend was talking about. I asked him and he said he said that to get out of something. That makes me look like I am overbearing. I talked to my sisters and I talked to my dad, and they told me I already know the answer to the questions I ask. So I guess I already know what to do. What do you think?