You'll be babysitting Janet! I don't do it more than once a month. It's easier to go there. When I have had it, I go home.
Marilyn - your fears are realistic. I find the best way to handle it is to not do anything my daughter and SIL don't want me to (as far as they'll ever find out).
And, NEVER trust the children not to rat you out! They can't wait to go home and tell Mommy what Grandma Judy did. And they love me a lot too!
The good thing is that the older I get, the more oblivious I can choose to be to all of their undercurrents. I just have so much fun with each of them, and then take a nap when they go home.
The funniest thing is to watch my daughter and SIL when they drop them off. I'm surprised they don't just slow the car down and let the kids jump out. This time, my SIL brought their stuff in and said to Jessie, "Alright, let's go." If they stayed 45 seconds, it was a long time.
