I went to Scott's house last night and had a really relaxing and fun night, and his mom didn't call once. We had a discussion this morning and I asked him if the money thing is always like that in his family. I apologized for not offering to pay, but said my family is much different and I just needed to know what it was like. He said usually they decide before the food gets there how everyone is paying. Each family pays for how many people they have there eating. Even if they decide to go out and buy groceries to make something, everyone splits the grocery bill
He said he knows it's weird, but when I'm visiting his parents it won't be like that. Just when more than one family get together he said the "joke" about it. In my head I was like "it's not joking when everyone ends up having to pay!"
Anyways, I also brought up the thing about his mom telling me I have to pay for my own ticket. I asked if she usually does things like that and he said "I don't know why she brought it up right there" and I told him it just made me feel really defensive, as if I was just expecting her to pay everything for me, which I WASN'T, but it came across as rude. And then I was like "I just don't know if I want to spend $32 to go to a church play, just so your mom will be happy" and he was like "Yeah I don't know why it's so expensive" but then told me that you get food there and whatever... I was like "You can go to red lobster and eat for less than $32" .. Later he said he was thinking about the Red Lobster comment and maybe we could just go out with my friends who live there that night, or stay in and watch movies or play Wii or something. He said he has better things to spend $32 on and I was like "You mean I have better things to spend it on... yours was free" and he laughed because I don't think he realized my tone. Oh well. I'm just going to leave it.
I asked him if he thinks I will ever fit in with his family and he said "I am sure when you visit in a couple of weeks you will realize how easy it is" .... I really hope so
