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Looking from the outside in, it looks like you guys had a "toxic" relationship. She basically leeched on you and you gave and gave and never got anything in return. There is a saying in Spanish that says that "habit is more powerful than love." This refers to people who stay together more because they are used to having each other around and not so much because they love one another. I think you miss her because she was always a part of your life, but not really because she was a positive one. Your husband is the best judge in this situation because he loves you and knows what your friendship with this women does to you emotionally. If he objects so strongly, I am sure it is for a good reason. While only you know what is the right decision for you, I personally believe you should leave well enough alone. If you feel that you need to clear the air with her, mostly to clear your conscience, then do so, but you should not attempt to rekindle the friendship. In the end, you may cause problems in your marriage, and add aggravation to your life. Is her friendship really worth all of that?
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