I agree with everyone...especially Magnolia. Friendships that have lasted that long become more than just friendships. To me, she was more or less like a sister to you.
Fights happen between friends. I'm sure that she has also thought about you during this time and may have the same reservations that you have. Here's a suggestion...just send her a "I miss you" card...the ones you find at Hallmark, etc. If she wants to mend fences, she'll call you.
BUUUT, some friendships just grow apart. It happens to the best and longest of friends.
As for your husband giving you an ultimatum, I think that is wrong. It's possible that he's just telling you that because of his own interest (she yelled at him in his home) and not the interest of his wife (you). If she would have been a real blood sister to you, would he feel the same way. Would he still try to make you choose?
My husband has friends that I cannot stand. However, I would never make him choose me over his friends. Your friend was wrong to yell at your husband and she needs to own up to that but your husband is in the wrong...JMO.
One of my closest friends and I were having a conversation one night. We were talking about what we would do if we found out our husbands cheated from each other.
To me, if Tammy told me she knew my husband cheated, I would appreciate her telling me.
She said that if I told her that her husband was cheating, it would (of course) destroy their marriage but that she would blame me for the destruction of their marriage because I was the bearer of bad news. Forget that he was the one that cheated...I was the one that told her. Anyway, I figure that if he's going to cheat (even if I know about it), I would never tell her. Some people are just funny like that.
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