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Kimberley · 10-15-2006, 07:06 AM

WOWSERS! I am so sorry that this happened to you. The only thing that I can compare it to is when my first husband was working out of town and was sleeping with a bartender. He was there probably 6-8 weeks and that "relationship" lasted that long. Fortunately for me, I'm not with him any longer but there were much more toxic things in our relationship.

You are a strong woman to stay with your husband. VERY strong. These things take so much time and the fact that you're forgiving him speaks volumes about you.

Loose the friend. Ask her to stop calling and if she persists, change your phone number and have it unlisted. You don't need a friend like that. Women are suppose to stick together. Not go after the one thing that should be ours alone.

I hope that you find peace in the future. Humans unfortunately can't forget some things like animals can. I think that God should have made memories of hurtful events non-existant.

Hang in there. You've found a great group of women who will always have a shoulder to lean on.

10-15-2006, 07:06 AM	#8
Kimberley Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: The Lone Star State Posts: 671	WOWSERS! I am so sorry that this happened to you. The only thing that I can compare it to is when my first husband was working out of town and was sleeping with a bartender. He was there probably 6-8 weeks and that "relationship" lasted that long. Fortunately for me, I'm not with him any longer but there were much more toxic things in our relationship. You are a strong woman to stay with your husband. VERY strong. These things take so much time and the fact that you're forgiving him speaks volumes about you. Loose the friend. Ask her to stop calling and if she persists, change your phone number and have it unlisted. You don't need a friend like that. Women are suppose to stick together. Not go after the one thing that should be ours alone. I hope that you find peace in the future. Humans unfortunately can't forget some things like animals can. I think that God should have made memories of hurtful events non-existant. Hang in there. You've found a great group of women who will always have a shoulder to lean on. __________________ Kimberley "If you can read this, thank a teacher and since it's in English, thank a soldier"