[DianaB]

For us, Marilyn, the choice of me staying home with the kids was not a luxury. It was something that my husband and I felt strong enough about that we were willing to for-go the extras that would have been available had I worked. I know that it appears that we are well off but we used to live in an old house that went with our farm with a trailer house attached to have enough room and bathrooms for the kids. I always drove older vehicles because we just didn't have the money for newer.

We all made choices that we've had to deal with. I wish that I had gone to college and done something in that direction. I like to think that I'm pretty knowledgable and I would have enjoyed doing something with that knowledge, but at the time I was raising kids and helping my husband.

Marilyn, We all have things in our past that we'd like to change but you did what you thought was best at the time and if you were back in that situation again you'd probably make the same decisions. See what you can do now to cut back on work and find some time for yourself. I think that you're needing some Marilyn time.