Well, let's see - when we got married, we were a lot like Rebecca - we both shared the "trouser wearer" title. Then, when first child came along, he was the boss (LOL!). And forget it when 2nd child came along - then they BOTH were the boss. Oh, reverse, back up.....before firstborn, our first yorkie, Katie, was definitely the boss!!! Okay, now after child 2......oh, now Gabby and Gage are the boss. Um......er......wait a sec......you mean of the household as far as discipline and finances go, right??? Okay, um.....that would mean it would still be Gabby and Gage - they keep the boys in line and all our money goes to them
Seriously, hubby and I have always shared everything in the house - from finances, to discipline, down to decorating (furniture, paint, etc.). If there's something he wants, we talk about it first - he doesn't just go out and get it (unless it's clothes for himself) - and the same for me. Big ticket items, we talk about first.