My aunt tried to comitt suicide

12-30-2006, 10:03 PM

I have only been here at this forum a few times. I really want to take this pain out of my chest, but I can't.
My mom called me a few minutes ago to tell me that my favorite aunt, one of my moms 4 sisters, tried to kill herself this morning. She has been very depressed since she had her hysterectomy. She always wanted to have babies, but unfortunately she couldn't, she tried 15 years and she wasn't able, she tried everything, and nothing worked, my sister offer to carry her baby as well as one of cousins, but nothing happened.
Last night this woman comes to my aunt's house and tells her that she is the mistress of my aunts husband (my uncle) and that they been having a realtionship for a few years now and that she was just there to show her that she can have babies, not like her that she is infertile, so she showed her the baby that she just had with the SOB of my aunt's husband. That crushed my aunt.It shattered her in pieces. After that my aunt went crazy, she argued with her husband and nobody knows exactly what happened but he left, so this morning she called my sister to tell her that she was very depressed and that she didn't want to live anymore. As soon as she hung up with my sister, my sister called my auncle( my mom's brother) who lives in he same street as my aunt and my sister told my auncle to go see auntie V 'cause she didn't sound very well, once he got there she had cut her wrists and had taken a whole bunch of pills. They rushed her ti the hospital and she is ok right now, but she's been sleeping all day. Don't know exactly what they did to her but she is ok.
All this is happening in Mexico, I'm here, I wish I could do somtehing but my husband says that there is nothing I can do right now. Mom says that aunti V needs to see a therapist, my Mom has a masters in phsicology, but she says that auntie V needs a phsyciatrist(sorry for the mispellings).
I love my aunt so much like I say she is my favorite aunt, she is only 9 years aolder than me, so we pretty much grew up together until she got married of course.
I'm going to be very honest, my mom told me not to wish these kind of things and not to hold grudges against anybody, but I wish that something bad happens to that mistress for all the pain that she has brought to our family with her actions. She knew what she was doing and that is why she did it.
We are a very cloe family and this hurts a lot to all of us.
I'm sorry for the long thread I just wanted to tell this to someone because it hurts a lot.

Janet · 12-31-2006, 05:29 AM

Oh my...you poor thing to have to go through this. Please try, as hard as it is, to put your anger aside. It will not help the situation at all. It was a cruel thing this mistress did, but your uncle is as much to blame as she is. It is sad that your aunt felt so distraught that she thought suicide was the answer. It is a permanent solution to a temperary problem. We were not able to have children either, but we were able to adopt a beautiful baby boy. Your mother is right...your aunt needs to talk with someone professionally. There are going to be so many people...family and friends..wanting to give her advice...but unless they know exactly what she is going through, by experience...all need to keep quiet. Everyone is different and what one person would do, another would not even think about. Get her into therapy and let a trained professional help her get all her feelings out. The only thing family and friends should be doing is letting your aunt know how much they love and need her. God has a plan..she needs to be here to see just where his hand will lead her.

Marilyn · 12-31-2006, 05:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Janet

Oh my...you poor thing to have to go through this. Please try, as hard as it is, to put your anger aside. It will not help the situation at all. It was a cruel thing this mistress did, but your uncle is as much to blame as she is. It is sad that your aunt felt so distraught that she thought suicide was the answer. It is a permanent solution to a temperary problem. We were not able to have children either, but we were able to adopt a beautiful baby boy. Your mother is right...your aunt needs to talk with someone professionally. There are going to be so many people...family and friends..wanting to give her advice...but unless they know exactly what she is going through, by experience...all need to keep quiet. Everyone is different and what one person would do, another would not even think about. Get her into therapy and let a trained professional help her get all her feelings out. The only thing family and friends should be doing is letting your aunt know how much they love and need her. God has a plan..she needs to be here to see just where his hand will lead her.

This is great advice. Sounds like you mom is thinking rationally, also. Hope she can incourage your aunt to get the help that she needs. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Let us know how you are all doing.

12-31-2006, 08:23 AM

I'm waiting on my mom to give me an update. I had called her and my sisters and my whole fammily and nobody answers at home or cell, so I'm assuming they are with my aunt in the hospital.I just need to wait for someone to call me.

khardy57 · 12-31-2006, 09:33 AM

God bless your aunt. Janet gave you excellent advice. It was extremely cruel of that woman to confront your aunt after all she's been thru, but you have to consider the calibre of person you're dealing with. Your uncle sounds as much to blame as his mistress.

Your aunt needs therapy. My sister couldn't have children and ended up adopting 2 of the most beautiful babies you've ever seen. Also, my daughter in law can't have children and is in the midst of dealing with it, so I know what it can do to you first hand.

I'll be praying for your aunt that she can find peace in her life.

Gina · 12-31-2006, 11:06 AM

I am so sorry to hear this, I agree with Janet to, that mistress had no business going over to your aunts with that kind of news , it was just cruel and heartless. Like your mom said don't wish malice on anyone, what you reap in life always has a way of coming back. Your uncle is much to blame here. In the meantime , encourage your aunt to seek help for she has many problems now to deal with. I wish you and your family a healthy new year. May the coming year bring some comfort to your aunt as she is going through dealing with her problems. My prayers are with you and your aunt.

12-30-2006, 10:03 PM	#1
vt73 Guest Posts: n/a	My aunt tried to comitt suicide I have only been here at this forum a few times. I really want to take this pain out of my chest, but I can't. My mom called me a few minutes ago to tell me that my favorite aunt, one of my moms 4 sisters, tried to kill herself this morning. She has been very depressed since she had her hysterectomy. She always wanted to have babies, but unfortunately she couldn't, she tried 15 years and she wasn't able, she tried everything, and nothing worked, my sister offer to carry her baby as well as one of cousins, but nothing happened. Last night this woman comes to my aunt's house and tells her that she is the mistress of my aunts husband (my uncle) and that they been having a realtionship for a few years now and that she was just there to show her that she can have babies, not like her that she is infertile, so she showed her the baby that she just had with the SOB of my aunt's husband. That crushed my aunt.It shattered her in pieces. After that my aunt went crazy, she argued with her husband and nobody knows exactly what happened but he left, so this morning she called my sister to tell her that she was very depressed and that she didn't want to live anymore. As soon as she hung up with my sister, my sister called my auncle( my mom's brother) who lives in he same street as my aunt and my sister told my auncle to go see auntie V 'cause she didn't sound very well, once he got there she had cut her wrists and had taken a whole bunch of pills. They rushed her ti the hospital and she is ok right now, but she's been sleeping all day. Don't know exactly what they did to her but she is ok. All this is happening in Mexico, I'm here, I wish I could do somtehing but my husband says that there is nothing I can do right now. Mom says that aunti V needs to see a therapist, my Mom has a masters in phsicology, but she says that auntie V needs a phsyciatrist(sorry for the mispellings). I love my aunt so much like I say she is my favorite aunt, she is only 9 years aolder than me, so we pretty much grew up together until she got married of course. I'm going to be very honest, my mom told me not to wish these kind of things and not to hold grudges against anybody, but I wish that something bad happens to that mistress for all the pain that she has brought to our family with her actions. She knew what she was doing and that is why she did it. We are a very cloe family and this hurts a lot to all of us. I'm sorry for the long thread I just wanted to tell this to someone because it hurts a lot.

12-31-2006, 05:29 AM	#2
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	Oh my...you poor thing to have to go through this. Please try, as hard as it is, to put your anger aside. It will not help the situation at all. It was a cruel thing this mistress did, but your uncle is as much to blame as she is. It is sad that your aunt felt so distraught that she thought suicide was the answer. It is a permanent solution to a temperary problem. We were not able to have children either, but we were able to adopt a beautiful baby boy. Your mother is right...your aunt needs to talk with someone professionally. There are going to be so many people...family and friends..wanting to give her advice...but unless they know exactly what she is going through, by experience...all need to keep quiet. Everyone is different and what one person would do, another would not even think about. Get her into therapy and let a trained professional help her get all her feelings out. The only thing family and friends should be doing is letting your aunt know how much they love and need her. God has a plan..she needs to be here to see just where his hand will lead her. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

12-31-2006, 08:23 AM	#4
vt73 Guest Posts: n/a	I'm waiting on my mom to give me an update. I had called her and my sisters and my whole fammily and nobody answers at home or cell, so I'm assuming they are with my aunt in the hospital.I just need to wait for someone to call me.

12-31-2006, 09:33 AM	#5
khardy57 Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 278	God bless your aunt. Janet gave you excellent advice. It was extremely cruel of that woman to confront your aunt after all she's been thru, but you have to consider the calibre of person you're dealing with. Your uncle sounds as much to blame as his mistress. Your aunt needs therapy. My sister couldn't have children and ended up adopting 2 of the most beautiful babies you've ever seen. Also, my daughter in law can't have children and is in the midst of dealing with it, so I know what it can do to you first hand. I'll be praying for your aunt that she can find peace in her life.

12-31-2006, 11:06 AM	#6
Gina Donating 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 6,025	I am so sorry to hear this, I agree with Janet to, that mistress had no business going over to your aunts with that kind of news , it was just cruel and heartless. Like your mom said don't wish malice on anyone, what you reap in life always has a way of coming back. Your uncle is much to blame here. In the meantime , encourage your aunt to seek help for she has many problems now to deal with. I wish you and your family a healthy new year. May the coming year bring some comfort to your aunt as she is going through dealing with her problems. My prayers are with you and your aunt.

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