What is your marital status?

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Tink

I too chose "other" because none of the above fit.

I married at age 18 and was in that abusive situation for 7 years. When I divorced him, I had no plans on ever marrying again.

4 years later I married my current hubby. It took him 3 years to convince me to marry him. He's basically a decent man, and I have no intention of leaving him, yet we don't have anything like the marriage that I'd wish for. He's an over the road semi driver, so is home only a day each week. We're not close or intimate, even though we have 2 children and 24 yrs together as our history. I feel we're more a business partnership than married, but since I have no interest in ever remarrying and don't want to tear our family apart, I choose to stay where we're at and so does he. Actually, he won't admit there's anything wrong with what we are... so who am I to shatter his denial?

I think there are a lot of marriages like yours and mine out there. Quite a few people try to put on a front, so most friends and family have no clue. I know I act like everything is fine, but here, I can be honest and feel you all understand on some level.

I'm not willing to do anything about it either. There are so many things I like to do such as sewing clothes for the babies although I need much more practice and I love woodworking, really any kind of craft. I still havent' tried the beads thing yet. It's just finding the time to do it all. By the time I run the bus route, take care of laundry, the house and the doggies, there is very little time left. When there is...I'm goofing off with my son or watching some relaxing TV.