need MIL advice

I actually did when we were dating. His mom randomly kicked him out of the house and he started staying with me because he had no where to go... he was sleeping in his car... but then she started making stupid comments like "if you get her pregnant don't come running to me" and started stalking my myspace page to get information about me. Somehow she found out my last name and email address, which is not posted on myspace or anywhere else. When Adam told her we were getting married she flipped out and started screaming at him for 3 hours. She said it was against "God's will" to marry me (because I am just sooo horrible). None of his family even showed up to support him and his aunt actually met me. He was supposed to be close with her but she told him "Don't bother sending me an invitation."

I just feel very disrespected because I never did anything. I am his wife and he is a man that is capable of making his own decisions. I don't think it's fair of her to judge me the way she has. I believe in giving people a chance and I was never given that opportunity. I wanted to meet her and I still do, mainly now just to prove to her that I am not that bad of a person. It's not fair for my husband to have to go by himself. We should go visit her as a couple. One day we will have children... how's it going to be then? He goes to take the kids to grandma's house by himself? I have to leave because she's coming by. I just feel that if he is going to lunch with her, I should be with him. If he goes to see his brother, I should be with him. If there is a family emergency, I should be with him.

That's another thing. His brother is terminally ill with many diseases. He is 13 and could probably go at any time or live for another 50 years. It's hard to tell, but what if something did happen to his brother? I should be able to go with my husband to the funeral or hospital without fear of his mother, not for myself, not for MIL, but for Adam.