Still no job..

[gja1000]

I'm really sorry Linda. It was a big adjustment for me too when my husband got sick and could no longer work. At first he was so sick, it didn't bother me, I spent all my extra time taking care of him. But then as he got better after about a year, I began to really miss my alone time at home. Now we do everything together and I am never alone anymore, but I have gradually gotten used to it.

I just don't know what I'd do if my husband couldn't/wouldn't find a job, I think I'd be plenty mad! I feel like I personally, would take any job just to bring in some income - and to show prospective employers that I had been working, even if it wasn't in my field. I have heard it looks bad to have such a long gap in your resume - although I'm not really sure about that.

I sure hope he finds work SOON!!!

[DianaB]

I'm so sorry, Linda. I knew that he had an opportunity that came up and I was praying for him. I know what you mean about needing some time to yourself......with having Karlie all day and Glen and Jaci in the evening. I really appreciate the time that Amy and Tammy watch her.

I agree with Janet about the heart to heart. Let him know that while he's home he could at least help you out. Give him a list for the day or make recommendations on what he can do. Good Luck! I'll be praying.

[2tiredmom]

Thanks Girls,

I gave him a list today. My youngest called me from school because she forgot
a couple of things. So when I went home for lunch I told him what she needed and that he could have the van and take the items to school for her. Then I told him what we needed from the store. SO he had a busy afternoon running errands. Picked me up from work the I told him to go hunting. So now I'm home alone. It's so peaceful now. Now what do i want to fix for supper. I really do appreciate you ladies here.

Thank You.

[paula1961]

I'm glad you are having a nice evening. And I hope your husband finds work soon. These are very stressful times for so many people. Hopefully things will get better soon Have a good evening... About supper. Fix something quick and easy so you'll have more time to relax

[gja1000]

Gosh, those really were great suggestions, weren't they! Hope your life continues to get easier!

[DianaB]

Oh Linda, I'm so glad that things are better!!! Sometimes men just need a little push. I know that my husband would do things if he just knew what needed done in that situation. We just have to learn to speak up.....so good for you. I'd have him doing the sweeping and cleaning too. There's no reason for your weekends to be so full of cleaning that you can't enjoy your time off. I do hope that your husband finds a job soon because I know that it's a worry for you. Hugs.

[Marilyn]

Oh, Linda, so hope things work out for you very soon!!! Not having any alone time is something that you can adjust to. I'm very seldom alone. Since I work in another town, hubby is almost always home before me, and sometimes he will work from home and never leave. He does do things around the house, but has gotten pretty lax lately, so I'm feeling the pressure to do more when I'm home. Home building has been slow lately so he has more time off, but he's working on his projects in the garage.

Your husband may be concerned about taking a job he feels is below him, and how it may affect future employment opportunities. However, in this economy, future prospective employers will understand a resume with a gap in employment, or a job that is not in line with the rest of your experience, and will understand that you are working to get back into your preferred field. Employers now respect that you are trying to support your family in difficult times.

I just hired a new warehouse person yesterday who had been laid off from his previous position since December 2008. His experience is wonderful for our line of business. We could have never have gotten someone of his caliber in better times, just hope he stays when things improve.

Will be praying that things improve in your world very very soon!!