whos the boss

[Tink]

Being married to an over the road trucker, I'm usually home to deal with things much more than he is, so the general day to day stuff is up to me. I do get his opinion on things I'm not fully decided on, and when it comes to major things, he certainly is involved.

I was the one who found and negotiatied the land contract on our current home. I homeschooled the 2 younger kids, take care of our finances, and pretty much choose the things we have/use in our home. I also buy most of hubbies clothes for him. It's as much a matter of convenience as my "wearing the pants" since he's usually only home part of sat and sunday and living where we do, it's close to an hr drive to any city where we can shop.

Right now we're trying to decide whether we should fix up the mobil home we're living in or replace it in a couple of years when the mortgage is paid off on our place. We plan for this to be our retirement home; so need to have it fit to live in for another 25 or so years. This type of decision we make together.

[Kimberley]

For the LONGEST time, I wore the pants. My husband couldn't make a decision on his own if his life depended on it. I even told him once to "grow a pair". In fact, if it wasn't for me, we'd still be renting a house. I picked out the house even before he had a chance to see it...BUT, his parents rented for over 30 years before buying their first house and I guess that's how he thought people should live. I wanted something to call my own.

I try to include him in the decision making process and he will participate sometimes, but mostly, he leaves it up to me. I guess then, if I mess up in a decision, he doesn't have to take the blame for anything.

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Kimberley

For the LONGEST time, I wore the pants. My husband couldn't make a decision on his own if his life depended on it. I even told him once to "grow a pair". In fact, if it wasn't for me, we'd still be renting a house. I picked out the house even before he had a chance to see it...BUT, his parents rented for over 30 years before buying their first house and I guess that's how he thought people should live. I wanted something to call my own.

I try to include him in the decision making process and he will participate sometimes, but mostly, he leaves it up to me. I guess then, if I mess up in a decision, he doesn't have to take the blame for anything.

Same here Kimberley!! I get so tired of making most of the decisions. It feels like at times I carry the weight of the world on my shoulders. A few years after we built our home (back in '76) it needed painting and touch ups. I did it all myself and the next time too. I decided to have it all in vinyl siding and trim, so no more painting.

I usually run things past him, but I'm the one usually with the final decision. Just gets old.