i think i need to put some fire under his... hiney :)

no hes not a virgin... and neither am i.. i just made the choice awhile ago that i wanted to wait and phil did the same (ironically before we met) so im a re-virgin lol no.. i dont kid myself.. i messed up and it took along time for me to forgive myself but phil and I forgave each other and decided to never look back on it again. Im so glad to hear that it worked out for you...maybe it will for me!! maybe phil is just scared that ill say no..... hmmm i like that theory

Originally Posted by Ponyup

Is he a virgin too? Just curious. My husband & I don't have a mushy relationship at all, but one day I decided he was the one & blurted out I wanna marry you & he said like right now & i'm like whenever & we started looking for rings. My hubby is not a risk taker at all, & didn't want to get turned down if he asked so it worked out better that I let him know I wanted to marry him first. I think you need to sit him down & tell him how you feel. No manipulation just honest I love you I want to be your wife talk. If he freaks out then he is not the one for. You need to know now before you waste anymore time on him.

[Lindsey]

I'm going to agree you should read that book! I bought it one day on a whim and I came home and read it cover to cover. Then I bawled all night! It exactly described the guy I was seeing at the time. I didn't want to believe it of course, so I stuck with him and got pretty hurt in the end. So from now on, I trust the book!

[Mandy]

I saw that show on Oprah, that guy is excellent!!!! Great book to read

[BabyNicole]

I will speak from double experiences (from two different men).

#1~I played wifey too. Laundry, cleaning his apt., etc. It is HIS job, not yours to be doing this stuff. They then grow to expect it and don't feel grateful anymore that you are doing it. When you stop? Be prepared, he will get annoyed.

#2~Do NOT rush a man into marriage. I was engaged to a man who had told me before that he NEVER wanted to get marriend. Well, I must have "rushed" him, we got engaged, and guess what? Two months before the wedding, and over $10,000 invested in this wedding he called it off! It's for the better now, but I don't want that to happen to anyone!!!

Now, I'm not a big reader, but did you ever read the book He's Just Not That Into You? If not, go pick it up. It's great!

Also, if you mention marriage and he says he never wants to get married, you might want to take that to heart. Don't bug him. If you really want to get married and have a family, you may want to look elsewhere.

Sorry. Good luck!