help... i have a nightmare coming in 2 weeks

11-09-2006, 02:07 PM

phil is no help! he is just as nervous as i am! i guess his family is alot more critical and uptight than mine. hes going around trying to decorate his apartment and buy furniture....and we basically share money so this will be coming out of both of our pockets i guess...hes trying to help me "practice" cooking the dishes... but he runs around with his head cut off looking for attractions and all this stuff to do and im like... geez...these people are going to drive us nuts!!!!!! honestly i just want to get in my car and drive away when they get here.

RLC12345678 · 11-09-2006, 02:11 PM

Ok, this is what I would do....you and Phil need to sit down together with pen and paper and the internet, in an organized fashion, and jot down ideas....meal ideas (www.allrecipes.com is an excellent resource), look on the internet for entertainment ideas (movies are always a good choice), sleeping arrangements, etc. It will be much easier that way. Be organized about it. Get Phil to call his mother or siblings and ask them what they are going to want to eat and what they are going to want to do while they are visitng. Who knows.......they may just want to relax!!!!!!!!!! I think communication between you and Phil and Phil and HIS family is going to be key.

11-09-2006, 02:19 PM

the bad thing about his family is they say one thing "oh hunny i dont care what we eat" and they mean "i want this this, and this" and when you serve them "that that and that" they look at you like... "what in the world were you thinking???" its gonna be ghetto enough b/c im going to have to put my dining table(which is in storage) in my living room in place of my couch lol ... i guess what phil's family thinks is reaaalllly important to him... so its now become obsessive to me!!! we really do need to just sit down.. and plan it all...its just going to be hell .

RLC12345678 · 11-09-2006, 02:25 PM

Hey, where in Alabama are you from?

11-09-2006, 02:30 PM

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Originally Posted by RLC12345678

Hey, where in Alabama are you from?

im from anniston/oxford/alexandria.... its like and hour and 1/2 from birmingham... where are u from????

RLC12345678 · 11-09-2006, 02:43 PM

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Originally Posted by tumblnstar

im from anniston/oxford/alexandria.... its like and hour and 1/2 from birmingham... where are u from????

born and raised in Montgomery, went to college in Auburn, got married and moved to Birmingham, and we now live in Huntsville. Small world!

DianaB · 11-09-2006, 02:26 PM

I think that you should work out a menu with them and have them bring pies, sweets, snacks, and pop with them. Maybe have them bring a crock pot or two to help you have enough places to warm stuff up or you could use them to make a big pot of soup with left-overs. Ask them if they have any family favorites that you could make, but go ahead and make a few of your own family favorites. It's not fair to ask one person (in a small apartment and going to school) to fix a huge lunch for a lot of other people and not offer to help by bringing food and such.

Also, make sure that they know to bring their own bedding. Pillows, blankets, air beds, etc because all you have are two beds which will go to_____(maybe his Mom and Dad and Grandmother in other bed) Let them know that THEY need to come prepared or possibly might want to check into a motel.

Spread the work out. Don't try to do it all yourself. And don't be afraid to ask for help with the cooking OR the clean up!!! Don't panic and have fun!!

My Aunts,Uncles, and Cousins get together every 2 years for Thanksgiving and you know that you are expected to bring something. For those who live close by they bring hot dishes and those who live far away bring pies and things that will travel well. Then we all chip in money to help the hostess pay for everything that she's bought. We know to bring bedding because you may not have a bed but be on the floor. All the women go shopping the day after Thanksgiving and the guys go to some pawn shops or whatever. The kids hang out and play hide and go seek in the dark (they loved it)

If you need any help with any thing, besides my physical presence, just let me know.

11-09-2006, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by DianaB

I think that you should work out a menu with them and have them bring pies, sweets, snacks, and pop with them. Maybe have them bring a crock pot or two to help you have enough places to warm stuff up or you could use them to make a big pot of soup with left-overs. Ask them if they have any family favorites that you could make, but go ahead and make a few of your own family favorites. It's not fair to ask one person (in a small apartment and going to school) to fix a huge lunch for a lot of other people and not offer to help by bringing food and such.

Also, make sure that they know to bring their own bedding. Pillows, blankets, air beds, etc because all you have are two beds which will go to_____(maybe his Mom and Dad and Grandmother in other bed) Let them know that THEY need to come prepared or possibly might want to check into a motel.

Spread the work out. Don't try to do it all yourself. And don't be afraid to ask for help with the cooking OR the clean up!!! Don't panic and have fun!!

My Aunts,Uncles, and Cousins get together every 2 years for Thanksgiving and you know that you are expected to bring something. For those who live close by they bring hot dishes and those who live far away bring pies and things that will travel well. Then we all chip in money to help the hostess pay for everything that she's bought. We know to bring bedding because you may not have a bed but be on the floor. All the women go shopping the day after Thanksgiving and the guys go to some pawn shops or whatever. The kids hang out and play hide and go seek in the dark (they loved it)

If you need any help with any thing, besides my physical presence, just let me know.

thanks so much! i might have a meltdown .. you never know lol i called my grandmother to send me a set of sheets. so thats one down... does anyone know where to get cheap air matresses... lol maybe next year they will bring their own. i already suggested the motel thing...and that was shot down real fast... they dont want to drive/pay/blah blah blah. everyone keeps talking about how relaxing its going to be for them b.c im cooking/cleaning/etc. they are calling it "their vacation"... when i hear them say that on the phone to phil... he just looks at me and mouths"im soooooo sorry" lol hopefully the both of us will be able to get it done and over with.

Ponyup · 11-09-2006, 02:34 PM

I would help with dinner ideas, I'm a northern indiana yankee. However, I think Yuppers (upper Pennisula people) are closer to canadians, so I would PM Lindsey (i think she's from Canada) & see if she has any ideas.

11-09-2006, 03:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Ponyup

I would help with dinner ideas, I'm a northern indiana yankee. However, I think Yuppers (upper Pennisula people) are closer to canadians, so I would PM Lindsey (i think she's from Canada) & see if she has any ideas.

oh yeh... UP'ers are a different breed... i love it up there though... its different but beautiful. his family really is great... when they are in their own element and running the show... i hate to talk bad about them... its just really going to be a feat to make this thanksgiving a good one!

Janet · 11-09-2006, 04:12 PM

I know this will sound so stupid, but I didn't see it anywhere in the posts...

WHO IN THE H*LL INVITED THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE??????

Okay now that I asked that...I would fix whatever you would like to have and know how to fix so that it doesn't stress you. If they don't like good southern food then there will be plenty of restaurants open.

Also, since they are so picky...and know that your apartments are small, why can't they stay in a hotel or something and be more comfortable?

I know I didn't help..LOL but if they invited themselves, fix it so they won't do that again....LOL

RLC12345678 · 11-09-2006, 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Janet

I know this will sound so stupid, but I didn't see it anywhere in the posts...

WHO IN THE H*LL INVITED THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE??????

Okay now that I asked that...I would fix whatever you would like to have and know how to fix so that it doesn't stress you. If they don't like good southern food then there will be plenty of restaurants open.

Also, since they are so picky...and know that your apartments are small, why can't they stay in a hotel or something and be more comfortable?

I know I didn't help..LOL but if they invited themselves, fix it so they won't do that again....LOL

Janet, I swear we are twins.

Janet · 11-09-2006, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by RLC12345678

Janet, I swear we are twins.

Sometimes Rebecca, when I read your posts....I have to double check and make sure it wasn't one of mine.....LMAO....!!!!

Marilyn · 11-17-2006, 08:39 PM

Mary, my advice to you is to chill out a bit and take some of the advise these fine 4WT ladies are suggesting. You and Phil need to realize that his family is being very selfish and thoughtless if they are coming expecting you do all the work, go to the expense of making them comfortable without contributing at all. I hate to be so blunt, but if they don't offer to help, bring their own bedding or something, I think they are being extremely rude. You are being very gracious by trying to accomodate them, but you should not put yourself in financial or emotional bind to make them happy.

I'd be nice to them, and prepare a nice Thanksgiving meal, but would make it clear that they need to help by bringing air matresses and other items. Meals other than the main Thanksgiving, I'd keep very simple. Buy a big turkey and feed them sandwiches the rest of the time.

Hope you maintain your sanity and relationship with Phil.
Happy Thanksgiving.

11-10-2006, 07:42 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Janet

I know this will sound so stupid, but I didn't see it anywhere in the posts...

WHO IN THE H*LL INVITED THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE??????

Okay now that I asked that...I would fix whatever you would like to have and know how to fix so that it doesn't stress you. If they don't like good southern food then there will be plenty of restaurants open.

Also, since they are so picky...and know that your apartments are small, why can't they stay in a hotel or something and be more comfortable?

I know I didn't help..LOL but if they invited themselves, fix it so they won't do that again....LOL

they invited themselves! they just called one day and said hey we are coming down there for thanksgiving so get ready lol.... they've never been to the apartments and i keep telling them how small they are in hopes that they will get the picture and its just not working out lol.. i did get brave last night and tell phil's two sisters who are at college nearby that they will be staying at their dorm rooms and not my apartment... they drive me nuts so at least i can say..."oh let me go ahead and get you back to your dorm room!" lol ... i do love the girls.. they are just a little spoiled... one comes over to the apartment and eats all our food and takes some to go.. and the other drops off her laundry for me to do "unintentially"..thank the heavens phil told her off the other day for that. or id still be in laundry hell!!

11-09-2006, 02:11 PM	#2
RLC12345678 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,614	Ok, this is what I would do....you and Phil need to sit down together with pen and paper and the internet, in an organized fashion, and jot down ideas....meal ideas (www.allrecipes.com is an excellent resource), look on the internet for entertainment ideas (movies are always a good choice), sleeping arrangements, etc. It will be much easier that way. Be organized about it. Get Phil to call his mother or siblings and ask them what they are going to want to eat and what they are going to want to do while they are visitng. Who knows.......they may just want to relax!!!!!!!!!! I think communication between you and Phil and Phil and HIS family is going to be key. __________________ Rebecca "To whom much is given, much is expected." ~Luke 12:48

11-09-2006, 02:25 PM	#4
RLC12345678 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,614	Hey, where in Alabama are you from? __________________ Rebecca "To whom much is given, much is expected." ~Luke 12:48

11-09-2006, 02:26 PM	#7
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	I think that you should work out a menu with them and have them bring pies, sweets, snacks, and pop with them. Maybe have them bring a crock pot or two to help you have enough places to warm stuff up or you could use them to make a big pot of soup with left-overs. Ask them if they have any family favorites that you could make, but go ahead and make a few of your own family favorites. It's not fair to ask one person (in a small apartment and going to school) to fix a huge lunch for a lot of other people and not offer to help by bringing food and such. Also, make sure that they know to bring their own bedding. Pillows, blankets, air beds, etc because all you have are two beds which will go to_____(maybe his Mom and Dad and Grandmother in other bed) Let them know that THEY need to come prepared or possibly might want to check into a motel. Spread the work out. Don't try to do it all yourself. And don't be afraid to ask for help with the cooking OR the clean up!!! Don't panic and have fun!! My Aunts,Uncles, and Cousins get together every 2 years for Thanksgiving and you know that you are expected to bring something. For those who live close by they bring hot dishes and those who live far away bring pies and things that will travel well. Then we all chip in money to help the hostess pay for everything that she's bought. We know to bring bedding because you may not have a bed but be on the floor. All the women go shopping the day after Thanksgiving and the guys go to some pawn shops or whatever. The kids hang out and play hide and go seek in the dark (they loved it) If you need any help with any thing, besides my physical presence, just let me know. __________________ ´¨) ¸.•´¸.•´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Diana Baker ✞ You and I are friends....... Always remember that if you fall I will pick you up...... After I stop laughing!!!

11-09-2006, 04:12 PM	#11
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	I know this will sound so stupid, but I didn't see it anywhere in the posts... WHO IN THE H*LL INVITED THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE?????? Okay now that I asked that...I would fix whatever you would like to have and know how to fix so that it doesn't stress you. If they don't like good southern food then there will be plenty of restaurants open. Also, since they are so picky...and know that your apartments are small, why can't they stay in a hotel or something and be more comfortable? I know I didn't help..LOL but if they invited themselves, fix it so they won't do that again....LOL __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

11-17-2006, 08:39 PM	#14
Marilyn Donating 4WT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: South Texas Posts: 4,907	Mary, my advice to you is to chill out a bit and take some of the advise these fine 4WT ladies are suggesting. You and Phil need to realize that his family is being very selfish and thoughtless if they are coming expecting you do all the work, go to the expense of making them comfortable without contributing at all. I hate to be so blunt, but if they don't offer to help, bring their own bedding or something, I think they are being extremely rude. You are being very gracious by trying to accomodate them, but you should not put yourself in financial or emotional bind to make them happy. I'd be nice to them, and prepare a nice Thanksgiving meal, but would make it clear that they need to help by bringing air matresses and other items. Meals other than the main Thanksgiving, I'd keep very simple. Buy a big turkey and feed them sandwiches the rest of the time. Hope you maintain your sanity and relationship with Phil. Happy Thanksgiving. __________________ Marilyn If anyone would like a free Bible Study CD or book entitled "Searching for Truth", PM me with your mailing address and I'll send you one. "And you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free." John 8:32

11-09-2006, 02:07 PM	#1
tumblnstar Guest Posts: n/a	phil is no help! he is just as nervous as i am! i guess his family is alot more critical and uptight than mine. hes going around trying to decorate his apartment and buy furniture....and we basically share money so this will be coming out of both of our pockets i guess...hes trying to help me "practice" cooking the dishes... but he runs around with his head cut off looking for attractions and all this stuff to do and im like... geez...these people are going to drive us nuts!!!!!! honestly i just want to get in my car and drive away when they get here.

11-09-2006, 02:19 PM	#3
tumblnstar Guest Posts: n/a	the bad thing about his family is they say one thing "oh hunny i dont care what we eat" and they mean "i want this this, and this" and when you serve them "that that and that" they look at you like... "what in the world were you thinking???" its gonna be ghetto enough b/c im going to have to put my dining table(which is in storage) in my living room in place of my couch lol ... i guess what phil's family thinks is reaaalllly important to him... so its now become obsessive to me!!! we really do need to just sit down.. and plan it all...its just going to be hell .

11-09-2006, 02:34 PM	#9
Ponyup Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 659	I would help with dinner ideas, I'm a northern indiana yankee. However, I think Yuppers (upper Pennisula people) are closer to canadians, so I would PM Lindsey (i think she's from Canada) & see if she has any ideas.

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